Dr. Emily Morse

Like to me, these are just like, seriously, not your people. I just think that. And you'll hear from just as many coppers like we had sex in the first day. We've been together 30 years. So I just don't believe in the rules and the conditions around this. I will say that sex is such like so many things. It's intimacy, it's connections, it's kissing, it's touching.

If you know that you're somebody that once you do have sex, you get really attached or you connect all these emotions to it, then maybe... You could wait to have sex, like maybe wait to have penetrative sex. Maybe you just slow it down and say, God, can we go back to just the making out? That felt really, really good. We're allowed to stop sex. We're allowed to say, you know what?

If you know that you're somebody that once you do have sex, you get really attached or you connect all these emotions to it, then maybe... You could wait to have sex, like maybe wait to have penetrative sex. Maybe you just slow it down and say, God, can we go back to just the making out? That felt really, really good. We're allowed to stop sex. We're allowed to say, you know what?

If you know that you're somebody that once you do have sex, you get really attached or you connect all these emotions to it, then maybe... You could wait to have sex, like maybe wait to have penetrative sex. Maybe you just slow it down and say, God, can we go back to just the making out? That felt really, really good. We're allowed to stop sex. We're allowed to say, you know what?

This is moving too fast. It's not what I want right now. And like change the moment. I have to say that I used to think I couldn't stop sex, that there was like... Once I got going with sex, I had to continue because it would like hurt my partner's feelings. They would get blue balls. Like I was afraid they'd call 911. Like that was a thing. It's not a thing.

This is moving too fast. It's not what I want right now. And like change the moment. I have to say that I used to think I couldn't stop sex, that there was like... Once I got going with sex, I had to continue because it would like hurt my partner's feelings. They would get blue balls. Like I was afraid they'd call 911. Like that was a thing. It's not a thing.

This is moving too fast. It's not what I want right now. And like change the moment. I have to say that I used to think I couldn't stop sex, that there was like... Once I got going with sex, I had to continue because it would like hurt my partner's feelings. They would get blue balls. Like I was afraid they'd call 911. Like that was a thing. It's not a thing.

I mean, yes, they might be uncomfortable for a minute, but like no one's going to die because you. So I just think, again, knowing yourself, knowing that like it actually is really hot to wait too. Like it's really hard to be like, let me see if I actually like this person and I trust them and I feel safe with them. Hard to feel super safe on a first date. Yeah. Yeah.

I mean, yes, they might be uncomfortable for a minute, but like no one's going to die because you. So I just think, again, knowing yourself, knowing that like it actually is really hot to wait too. Like it's really hard to be like, let me see if I actually like this person and I trust them and I feel safe with them. Hard to feel super safe on a first date. Yeah. Yeah.

I mean, yes, they might be uncomfortable for a minute, but like no one's going to die because you. So I just think, again, knowing yourself, knowing that like it actually is really hot to wait too. Like it's really hard to be like, let me see if I actually like this person and I trust them and I feel safe with them. Hard to feel super safe on a first date. Yeah. Yeah.

Like truly, like true safety comes from, you know, consistency and knowing someone. So again, like okay to wait, but also no judgment around if you decide to a full body.

Like truly, like true safety comes from, you know, consistency and knowing someone. So again, like okay to wait, but also no judgment around if you decide to a full body.

Like truly, like true safety comes from, you know, consistency and knowing someone. So again, like okay to wait, but also no judgment around if you decide to a full body.

But it's so truly the drinking opens us up. Like So yeah, just permission to have your own experience and then like know yourself and be like, well, maybe on this date that I'm not going to drink or I will drink and I'll be okay with what I decided. Like there's no, again, this goes back to the shaming around, you know, sexuality. It's just like, really? What if you just had a really good night?

But it's so truly the drinking opens us up. Like So yeah, just permission to have your own experience and then like know yourself and be like, well, maybe on this date that I'm not going to drink or I will drink and I'll be okay with what I decided. Like there's no, again, this goes back to the shaming around, you know, sexuality. It's just like, really? What if you just had a really good night?

But it's so truly the drinking opens us up. Like So yeah, just permission to have your own experience and then like know yourself and be like, well, maybe on this date that I'm not going to drink or I will drink and I'll be okay with what I decided. Like there's no, again, this goes back to the shaming around, you know, sexuality. It's just like, really? What if you just had a really good night?

Yeah. It was a good time. And then you went home.

Yeah. It was a good time. And then you went home.

Yeah. It was a good time. And then you went home.

so much easier once you're clear about your boundaries and your values and like, yeah, let those people fall away who has all these judgments around sex, who has all these like rules and strict, like, you know. It's fear. Yeah.