Dr. Emily Morse

I know you talk a lot about this in the show, but I just feel like for some of these really pressing issues, if your partner has shut down, and usually it is fear, which let me remind everyone is false evidence appearing real, that is fear, and a lot of us have it, that there's gotta be ways, if it doesn't happen through your conversation, that you can get some help so you can get to a place and move to the other side of the conversation where it gets fun.

Yeah, I think there's the high desire partner and the low desire partner. Right. That there's one and the low desire partner has all the power if you think about it. They're the one who's deciding, are we going to have sex? Are we not going to have sex? And if we're like shutting it down, the sex isn't happening. So usually it's the higher desire partner that is doing all of the initiating.

Yeah, I think there's the high desire partner and the low desire partner. Right. That there's one and the low desire partner has all the power if you think about it. They're the one who's deciding, are we going to have sex? Are we not going to have sex? And if we're like shutting it down, the sex isn't happening. So usually it's the higher desire partner that is doing all of the initiating.

Yeah, I think there's the high desire partner and the low desire partner. Right. That there's one and the low desire partner has all the power if you think about it. They're the one who's deciding, are we going to have sex? Are we not going to have sex? And if we're like shutting it down, the sex isn't happening. So usually it's the higher desire partner that is doing all of the initiating.

So yeah, initiating is a huge topic because, yeah, it's kind of our gateway to sex. And so if we're not comfortable with it, you know, I just want to remind people that initiating is a skill set. It is a practice. It is a skill set. I was very, I mean, the thing is, I am the expert. I've been doing this a long time, but I wrote this book and I do my podcast all the time to help.

So yeah, initiating is a huge topic because, yeah, it's kind of our gateway to sex. And so if we're not comfortable with it, you know, I just want to remind people that initiating is a skill set. It is a practice. It is a skill set. I was very, I mean, the thing is, I am the expert. I've been doing this a long time, but I wrote this book and I do my podcast all the time to help.

So yeah, initiating is a huge topic because, yeah, it's kind of our gateway to sex. And so if we're not comfortable with it, you know, I just want to remind people that initiating is a skill set. It is a practice. It is a skill set. I was very, I mean, the thing is, I am the expert. I've been doing this a long time, but I wrote this book and I do my podcast all the time to help.

I need to help too, because it's not like it's just, think about it like your health. You never just get to a place where you achieve your peak health and your mental health and physical, and you're done. And then you can go off and learn to play golf or something. No, Like it is an ongoing practice. So I have to learn. I have to remember with my partner, I haven't initiated in a while.

I need to help too, because it's not like it's just, think about it like your health. You never just get to a place where you achieve your peak health and your mental health and physical, and you're done. And then you can go off and learn to play golf or something. No, Like it is an ongoing practice. So I have to learn. I have to remember with my partner, I haven't initiated in a while.

I need to help too, because it's not like it's just, think about it like your health. You never just get to a place where you achieve your peak health and your mental health and physical, and you're done. And then you can go off and learn to play golf or something. No, Like it is an ongoing practice. So I have to learn. I have to remember with my partner, I haven't initiated in a while.

I'm going to make an effort. Because again, it's just, it's a skill set. We have to learn it. And what happens, why it gets so fraught is because think about it. If you have one partner that's always initiating, that's always deciding what's going to happen. And that means that if you're the one, you're the lower desire partner, not initiating, then you're the one who's saying yes or saying no.

I'm going to make an effort. Because again, it's just, it's a skill set. We have to learn it. And what happens, why it gets so fraught is because think about it. If you have one partner that's always initiating, that's always deciding what's going to happen. And that means that if you're the one, you're the lower desire partner, not initiating, then you're the one who's saying yes or saying no.

I'm going to make an effort. Because again, it's just, it's a skill set. We have to learn it. And what happens, why it gets so fraught is because think about it. If you have one partner that's always initiating, that's always deciding what's going to happen. And that means that if you're the one, you're the lower desire partner, not initiating, then you're the one who's saying yes or saying no.

So if you're rejecting your partner and saying no to them, it is a rejection. Even if it's because you were tired or it's been a long day with the kids or with work, they're still feeling not so great about it. They're still worried that like, did I do something wrong? Are you not attracted to me anymore?

So if you're rejecting your partner and saying no to them, it is a rejection. Even if it's because you were tired or it's been a long day with the kids or with work, they're still feeling not so great about it. They're still worried that like, did I do something wrong? Are you not attracted to me anymore?

So if you're rejecting your partner and saying no to them, it is a rejection. Even if it's because you were tired or it's been a long day with the kids or with work, they're still feeling not so great about it. They're still worried that like, did I do something wrong? Are you not attracted to me anymore?

So it's just part of that really healthy give and take in a relationship where I think you have to all learn to be a participant in the relationship. And that comes down to learning how to initiate and consciously thinking about it. We have to think about our sex life holistically. Again, there's so much around it. So learning to say, okay, I'm going to put it in my calendar.

So it's just part of that really healthy give and take in a relationship where I think you have to all learn to be a participant in the relationship. And that comes down to learning how to initiate and consciously thinking about it. We have to think about our sex life holistically. Again, there's so much around it. So learning to say, okay, I'm going to put it in my calendar.

So it's just part of that really healthy give and take in a relationship where I think you have to all learn to be a participant in the relationship. And that comes down to learning how to initiate and consciously thinking about it. We have to think about our sex life holistically. Again, there's so much around it. So learning to say, okay, I'm going to put it in my calendar.

I'm going to even ask my partner, because maybe you don't even know how to initiate, right? Let's say your whole life. And I have to say that... I'm not usually the initiator. I did say that in the podcast too. I'm not. And it's because maybe I was with more higher desire partners or being a woman to bring gender into this.