Dr Emily

Sometimes, and I must say that this is only my experience in therapy, is that combining that with what's called a bottom-up approach is really powerful.

And so what I mean by a bottom-up approach is the bottom of the triangle.

So we go to the bottom of the triangle to help heal the rest to go upwards.

So what I mean by that is that we work with the felt experience, right?

So, for example, the somatic experience to help us heal and come to a cognitive understanding that.

Yeah, it could be that.

For me, it's a lot of work.

This has particular relevance again for the critic and reviewing your life kind of in retrospect.

It's a lot of work with memories.

So early childhood memories are kind of those milestone moments where you can picture a lack of feeling of shame or humiliation.

Yeah.

So for me, there are a number of different ways in which we could do bottom-up processing.

So a therapy like EMDR, which is eye movement desensitization and reprocessing, so that is based on reprocessing at a somatic and neurological level.

This sounds very technical.

where we're actually feeling and experiencing a memory so that there's an exposure.

And then by the end, we can have this cognitive belief and understanding that I am good enough, for example.

Yeah.

So it's kind of like if I said to you, actually, you know what always comes to mind when I think about this?

You know, Good Will Hunting, there's a scene at the end with Robin Williams and Matt Damon and they're

um robin williams is the therapist and he says to matt damon it's not your fault yeah such a powerful moment right um and then matt damon like bats it away and he's like no no don't worry about it man and then he goes it's not your fault and then he says it and he says the last time and that's when matt damon kind of um almost really moves into the vulnerable child mode yeah that's how i deal when when like someone when a waiter brings over the wrong meal that's how i deal with them