Dr. Erica Komisar

It's very sad. When people want children and they can't have children, it is incredibly sad.

It's very sad. When people want children and they can't have children, it is incredibly sad.

There are a lot of theories. Some are environmental. Some are the fact that we're delaying having children. We're lying to women and to men. We're telling them, freeze your eggs. In fact, this is a little disturbing. I'll tell you about this. That law firms now are paying for the freezing of their young female associates' eggs. I find that disturbing.

There are a lot of theories. Some are environmental. Some are the fact that we're delaying having children. We're lying to women and to men. We're telling them, freeze your eggs. In fact, this is a little disturbing. I'll tell you about this. That law firms now are paying for the freezing of their young female associates' eggs. I find that disturbing.

Saying, freeze your eggs, work really hard for us. Yeah, you can have children later. And the truth is a lot of them can't because when you freeze eggs, it's not a guarantee of fertility. It's not a guarantee that those eggs will turn into embryos. It's not a guarantee that those embryos will turn into babies. So there's the age piece.

Saying, freeze your eggs, work really hard for us. Yeah, you can have children later. And the truth is a lot of them can't because when you freeze eggs, it's not a guarantee of fertility. It's not a guarantee that those eggs will turn into embryos. It's not a guarantee that those embryos will turn into babies. So there's the age piece.

There is also, and there's the environmental piece, there is also the stress piece, which we are not talking about. There's a component to getting pregnant that is about stress. We have more stress. on both men and women. You know, it used to be that men died sooner because they had more stress. But now I think it's evened out the odds.

There is also, and there's the environmental piece, there is also the stress piece, which we are not talking about. There's a component to getting pregnant that is about stress. We have more stress. on both men and women. You know, it used to be that men died sooner because they had more stress. But now I think it's evened out the odds.

I think women may die sooner because they have the stress of working and raising children for the most part. But the point is that the stress that young adults face because they're trying to, you know... We should talk about some of the other myths. What's another myth? We'll weave it through this talk. Another myth is... You can do everything all at the same time and do it well. Myth.

I think women may die sooner because they have the stress of working and raising children for the most part. But the point is that the stress that young adults face because they're trying to, you know... We should talk about some of the other myths. What's another myth? We'll weave it through this talk. Another myth is... You can do everything all at the same time and do it well. Myth.

That's a big myth. You can't. You can't have a fabulous career working full time and traveling and being fabulous and raise healthy children. The good news is life is long. You may live till 120 like Moses. And I think of your generation, you're younger than me, but I think you probably will live well over 100.

That's a big myth. You can't. You can't have a fabulous career working full time and traveling and being fabulous and raise healthy children. The good news is life is long. You may live till 120 like Moses. And I think of your generation, you're younger than me, but I think you probably will live well over 100.

And so what that means is you have many, many, many, many, many, many years to have a fabulous career. When your children don't need you so much, but you have a very small window to create that emotional security for your children that will be the core of them. You know, we talk a lot about your physical core and core training. This is your emotional core.

And so what that means is you have many, many, many, many, many, many years to have a fabulous career. When your children don't need you so much, but you have a very small window to create that emotional security for your children that will be the core of them. You know, we talk a lot about your physical core and core training. This is your emotional core.

This is the emotional core of human beings. Attachment security and a feeling of safety that you can rely on the people who you need most in the world to be there when you need them. That is your emotional core.

This is the emotional core of human beings. Attachment security and a feeling of safety that you can rely on the people who you need most in the world to be there when you need them. That is your emotional core.

So I'm a good example. I had a career when I was in my 20s. And I got married when I was, I met my husband when I was 27. And I got married when I was just shy of 30 or I was 30. And then we had children in our 30s. So before we had children, I was working, I was seeing something like 40 hours of patients a week. And I was working into the wee hours of the night.

So I'm a good example. I had a career when I was in my 20s. And I got married when I was, I met my husband when I was 27. And I got married when I was just shy of 30 or I was 30. And then we had children in our 30s. So before we had children, I was working, I was seeing something like 40 hours of patients a week. And I was working into the wee hours of the night.

I would work till 11 o'clock at night, coming home exhausted. Then we had children, but it was an agreement that we had that when we had babies, I would take a good long period off and then really go back very, very, very minimally. And I had the kind of career by choice. that I could have control over and it could be flexible and I could control it. And so I took six months off with each child.

I would work till 11 o'clock at night, coming home exhausted. Then we had children, but it was an agreement that we had that when we had babies, I would take a good long period off and then really go back very, very, very minimally. And I had the kind of career by choice. that I could have control over and it could be flexible and I could control it. And so I took six months off with each child.