Dr. Erica Komisar

And then after six months, only went back to work an hour and a half a day, five days a week. So we had an agreement, my husband and I, which is it would be just enough to pay a mother's helper, a nanny. And we did without in those years. We did without vacations. We did without second homes. We did without fancy clothes.

And then after six months, only went back to work an hour and a half a day, five days a week. So we had an agreement, my husband and I, which is it would be just enough to pay a mother's helper, a nanny. And we did without in those years. We did without vacations. We did without second homes. We did without fancy clothes.

We did without the other things that many of our peers were getting and traveling and doing. We said what's important to us is that we pare down, not expand now. We're expanding as parents, so we want to pare down materially. Life is long, and you can have a successful career.

We did without the other things that many of our peers were getting and traveling and doing. We said what's important to us is that we pare down, not expand now. We're expanding as parents, so we want to pare down materially. Life is long, and you can have a successful career.

Some of the women that I interview for my book are women who didn't even start their careers until they were in their 40s after they had children that were older.

Some of the women that I interview for my book are women who didn't even start their careers until they were in their 40s after they had children that were older.

They have to be there in a different way. In the early days, men don't breastfeed. So that's the first thing. Unless you can show me a man who has grown breasts and can actually breastfeed, maybe it's coming. I don't know. But for now, women's bodies connect them to their babies. They connect them through birth. They connect them through breastfeeding.

They have to be there in a different way. In the early days, men don't breastfeed. So that's the first thing. Unless you can show me a man who has grown breasts and can actually breastfeed, maybe it's coming. I don't know. But for now, women's bodies connect them to their babies. They connect them through birth. They connect them through breastfeeding.

There is a physical component and a hormonal component to infancy and motherhood. And there really is a difference in the way that mothers respond to babies and fathers respond to babies. Now, when do fathers become really important? It's not that the father isn't important to give the mother a break or to bond with the baby or to bathe the baby.

There is a physical component and a hormonal component to infancy and motherhood. And there really is a difference in the way that mothers respond to babies and fathers respond to babies. Now, when do fathers become really important? It's not that the father isn't important to give the mother a break or to bond with the baby or to bathe the baby.

But what that baby needs is that attachment security to that primary attachment figure. So the mother, usually the mother. Sometimes it's the father, but usually the mother. Fathers, with their playful tactile stimulation, they become really important when children become mobile. When children start to crawl and toddle, when they're around babies,

But what that baby needs is that attachment security to that primary attachment figure. So the mother, usually the mother. Sometimes it's the father, but usually the mother. Fathers, with their playful tactile stimulation, they become really important when children become mobile. When children start to crawl and toddle, when they're around babies,

18 months to two years old, fathers become incredibly exciting. And they're really important. So when fathers aren't around in those days, when children are starting to explore the world, those children have a harder time separating from others. So it's really important to have what we said, the yin and the yang.

18 months to two years old, fathers become incredibly exciting. And they're really important. So when fathers aren't around in those days, when children are starting to explore the world, those children have a harder time separating from others. So it's really important to have what we said, the yin and the yang.

What we are doing now is we are not prioritizing attachment security, which is the foundation for then healthy separation. And when healthy separation starts, fathers are critical. When you have another child, a second child, fathers are critical because fathers seduce the older child. They say, come on, let's go out and play. Let's go kick the soccer ball. Let's go to the swing set.

What we are doing now is we are not prioritizing attachment security, which is the foundation for then healthy separation. And when healthy separation starts, fathers are critical. When you have another child, a second child, fathers are critical because fathers seduce the older child. They say, come on, let's go out and play. Let's go kick the soccer ball. Let's go to the swing set.

And they give a space to the mother with the next baby. They help the older children to grow up.

And they give a space to the mother with the next baby. They help the older children to grow up.

Well, that was an attachment study.

Well, that was an attachment study.