Dr. Erica Komisar

Because there's so much stress in modern life and there's such a need for people to perform and be successful in their careers and in school and get good grades. There's so much pressure on kids. So, you know, I'm 60 and we didn't have this kind of pressure before. growing up. And so the generations that follow have so much pressure. That pressure makes children literally go off the rails.

Because there's so much stress in modern life and there's such a need for people to perform and be successful in their careers and in school and get good grades. There's so much pressure on kids. So, you know, I'm 60 and we didn't have this kind of pressure before. growing up. And so the generations that follow have so much pressure. That pressure makes children literally go off the rails.

We could talk about the academic pressure, the competitiveness, the perfectionism. So ADHD is a bucket. It's a bucket which you throw people in who have anxiety that has never been treated. And there's different ways of thinking about treatment too. So we're a society that likes superficial quick fixes. We like drugs. We like CBT therapy. The truth is that this is not a quick fix.

We could talk about the academic pressure, the competitiveness, the perfectionism. So ADHD is a bucket. It's a bucket which you throw people in who have anxiety that has never been treated. And there's different ways of thinking about treatment too. So we're a society that likes superficial quick fixes. We like drugs. We like CBT therapy. The truth is that this is not a quick fix.

Figuring out relationally... dynamically what happened to you as a child, what your losses were, what your traumas were, what caused you to feel so anxious, what's caused you to go into fight or flight is hard work. It requires frustration. It requires commitment. It requires going to someone who can think very deeply with you.

Figuring out relationally... dynamically what happened to you as a child, what your losses were, what your traumas were, what caused you to feel so anxious, what's caused you to go into fight or flight is hard work. It requires frustration. It requires commitment. It requires going to someone who can think very deeply with you.

You know, I want to define what anxiety is because I think it's really important. Because we rarely define depression and anxiety. Depression is preoccupation with past losses. Anxiety is preoccupation with future losses that may never occur. What do they have in common?

You know, I want to define what anxiety is because I think it's really important. Because we rarely define depression and anxiety. Depression is preoccupation with past losses. Anxiety is preoccupation with future losses that may never occur. What do they have in common?

All about loss. And you could say the generations now are very preoccupied with loss.

All about loss. And you could say the generations now are very preoccupied with loss.

Well, we're preoccupied with what I say the, you know, I don't want to judge, but I want to say the unimportant things in life. What are the important things in life? Relationships, love, connection, health, right? You would say objectively family. These are the important things in life. But we've become very preoccupied with material success, money, career achievements, fame.

Well, we're preoccupied with what I say the, you know, I don't want to judge, but I want to say the unimportant things in life. What are the important things in life? Relationships, love, connection, health, right? You would say objectively family. These are the important things in life. But we've become very preoccupied with material success, money, career achievements, fame.

I think there was a study that interviewed teenagers. And it was really discouraging because they said that the thing they wanted more in life than anything was to be famous. And so we're preoccupied with the wrong things.

I think there was a study that interviewed teenagers. And it was really discouraging because they said that the thing they wanted more in life than anything was to be famous. And so we're preoccupied with the wrong things.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah, so remember what I said, that you can't control everything that happens to your child. Divorces do happen and adversities happen to children. Health issues happen to children. What you can control is you can control the first three years and be as present as possible for your child.

Yeah, so remember what I said, that you can't control everything that happens to your child. Divorces do happen and adversities happen to children. Health issues happen to children. What you can control is you can control the first three years and be as present as possible for your child.

You're going to have me on speed dial, Stephen.

You're going to have me on speed dial, Stephen.