Dr. Erica Komisar

I'll be on speed dial.

I'll be on speed dial.

No, but you can call me.

No, but you can call me.

No, you can have me on speed dial. How much? Yeah, you can, as much as you want. So the deal is, you don't yell at your children. An emotionally regulated parent, a healthy parent produces a healthy child. So what is a healthy parent? A healthy parent is a parent who feels good about themselves, who has...

No, you can have me on speed dial. How much? Yeah, you can, as much as you want. So the deal is, you don't yell at your children. An emotionally regulated parent, a healthy parent produces a healthy child. So what is a healthy parent? A healthy parent is a parent who feels good about themselves, who has...

authentically good self-esteem, not grandiosity, but really feels good about themselves, knows their strengths and limitations, and overall as a whole person feels good about themselves. They have the capacity to regulate their emotions, to keep their emotions from going too high and too low. Remember sailing in the Caribbean, meaning they can stay calm in a storm.

authentically good self-esteem, not grandiosity, but really feels good about themselves, knows their strengths and limitations, and overall as a whole person feels good about themselves. They have the capacity to regulate their emotions, to keep their emotions from going too high and too low. Remember sailing in the Caribbean, meaning they can stay calm in a storm.

Is sensitive and empathic as a nurturer. These are signs of health in a parent.

Is sensitive and empathic as a nurturer. These are signs of health in a parent.

Well, first you have to, so before you discipline, you always want to be empathic first. So I always say that if you are going to discipline a child, first you have to recognize how they feel. I mean, recognizing how children feel is important anyway, meaning when you recognize a child's feelings, if they're sad, you mirror their sadness. If they're angry, you say, I can see you're angry.

Well, first you have to, so before you discipline, you always want to be empathic first. So I always say that if you are going to discipline a child, first you have to recognize how they feel. I mean, recognizing how children feel is important anyway, meaning when you recognize a child's feelings, if they're sad, you mirror their sadness. If they're angry, you say, I can see you're angry.

If they're happy, you look happy with them. That kind of reflection is...

If they're happy, you look happy with them. That kind of reflection is...

is the way that your child knows that you acknowledge them that they're a person to you that they're a separate person to you it's how they feel valuable so when you acknowledge their feelings that's the first critical you'd say parenting 101 acknowledge your child's feelings so i would turn to my child and say you want sweets are you hungry

is the way that your child knows that you acknowledge them that they're a person to you that they're a separate person to you it's how they feel valuable so when you acknowledge their feelings that's the first critical you'd say parenting 101 acknowledge your child's feelings so i would turn to my child and say you want sweets are you hungry

Yeah, you can say, I can see that you really want that packet of sweets. I can see how hard it is because you really want it, but you know you can't have it before dinner. You know that's the rule.

Yeah, you can say, I can see that you really want that packet of sweets. I can see how hard it is because you really want it, but you know you can't have it before dinner. You know that's the rule.

And then they start screaming and you say, a broken record is a communication style where you say, oh, I can see it's really hard for you, but you still can't have the sweets. And you stay with them and you keep empathizing and then setting structure, empathizing structure, empathizing structure. The mistake that parents make is that they go right into the no word. They don't use empathy.

And then they start screaming and you say, a broken record is a communication style where you say, oh, I can see it's really hard for you, but you still can't have the sweets. And you stay with them and you keep empathizing and then setting structure, empathizing structure, empathizing structure. The mistake that parents make is that they go right into the no word. They don't use empathy.