Dr. Ethan Kross

Maybe you want to reframe how you think about the circumstance. And we have wonderful cognitive apparatus to help us reframe things. We can look at it from different perspectives. We can focus on the silver lining. We can contextualize it. So you have lots of tools to engage with things once you refocus, but you don't always need to refocus on the problem. So you want to be flexible.

Maybe you want to reframe how you think about the circumstance. And we have wonderful cognitive apparatus to help us reframe things. We can look at it from different perspectives. We can focus on the silver lining. We can contextualize it. So you have lots of tools to engage with things once you refocus, but you don't always need to refocus on the problem. So you want to be flexible.

Maybe you want to reframe how you think about the circumstance. And we have wonderful cognitive apparatus to help us reframe things. We can look at it from different perspectives. We can focus on the silver lining. We can contextualize it. So you have lots of tools to engage with things once you refocus, but you don't always need to refocus on the problem. So you want to be flexible.

Flexibility and how you deploy your attention is really the mantra that I personally live by based on what I know of how all this works. There are a couple of caveats I wanna throw out there. When I'm talking about distraction and avoiding, I'm talking about healthy distractions, healthy avoidance.

Flexibility and how you deploy your attention is really the mantra that I personally live by based on what I know of how all this works. There are a couple of caveats I wanna throw out there. When I'm talking about distraction and avoiding, I'm talking about healthy distractions, healthy avoidance.

Flexibility and how you deploy your attention is really the mantra that I personally live by based on what I know of how all this works. There are a couple of caveats I wanna throw out there. When I'm talking about distraction and avoiding, I'm talking about healthy distractions, healthy avoidance.

There are unhealthier forms of avoidance that we know definitively are not productive like substance abuse. We also know that if you adopt a blunt rule of always just chronically avoiding, not good. So you wanna be balanced.

There are unhealthier forms of avoidance that we know definitively are not productive like substance abuse. We also know that if you adopt a blunt rule of always just chronically avoiding, not good. So you wanna be balanced.

There are unhealthier forms of avoidance that we know definitively are not productive like substance abuse. We also know that if you adopt a blunt rule of always just chronically avoiding, not good. So you wanna be balanced.

Yeah. I mean if the problem keeps – like you want to listen to what your mind and body are telling you. And so if you find that the problem keeps resurfacing, that's a cue you need to engage and deal with it. But a lot of the experiences we have on a daily basis, which may not be positive, negative experiences, as time moves on, sometimes that's all we need to keep going with our lives.

Yeah. I mean if the problem keeps – like you want to listen to what your mind and body are telling you. And so if you find that the problem keeps resurfacing, that's a cue you need to engage and deal with it. But a lot of the experiences we have on a daily basis, which may not be positive, negative experiences, as time moves on, sometimes that's all we need to keep going with our lives.

Yeah. I mean if the problem keeps – like you want to listen to what your mind and body are telling you. And so if you find that the problem keeps resurfacing, that's a cue you need to engage and deal with it. But a lot of the experiences we have on a daily basis, which may not be positive, negative experiences, as time moves on, sometimes that's all we need to keep going with our lives.

And we do see in the literature that when you impose a particular view on folks, like you have to do it this way, that tends not to work out very well.

And we do see in the literature that when you impose a particular view on folks, like you have to do it this way, that tends not to work out very well.

And we do see in the literature that when you impose a particular view on folks, like you have to do it this way, that tends not to work out very well.

It's a religion in the city that I live in. That's right.

It's a religion in the city that I live in. That's right.

It's a religion in the city that I live in. That's right.

So we actually, it's called the Big House, actually the largest football stadium in the country. So close to 110,000. Whoa. That's a lot of people. It's a lot of people. And we sing in unison. And it's actually, I never really was into football before moving to Ann Arbor. And now I embrace it. It helps when you're the national championships, which we were champions, which we were last year.

So we actually, it's called the Big House, actually the largest football stadium in the country. So close to 110,000. Whoa. That's a lot of people. It's a lot of people. And we sing in unison. And it's actually, I never really was into football before moving to Ann Arbor. And now I embrace it. It helps when you're the national championships, which we were champions, which we were last year.