Dr. Ethan Kross

Not terribly organized in the sense of putting my things away. Probably like my wife's biggest pet peeve are the trail of clothing that exists from the shower to the closet around the room. And if you go into my office, I assure you it does not look like this facility that we're taping in right now. Piles of books. That's when times are good.

Yet, going back to when I was a kid, whenever I would experience chatter, I would do this, something deep inside me would beckon myself to, it was like, remember Field of Dreams, like build it and they will come? For me, it was like, And you will experience relief. And so I would go and put things away. And I do this, I go into the kitchen, do all the dishes, maybe even scrub the counter.

Yet, going back to when I was a kid, whenever I would experience chatter, I would do this, something deep inside me would beckon myself to, it was like, remember Field of Dreams, like build it and they will come? For me, it was like, And you will experience relief. And so I would go and put things away. And I do this, I go into the kitchen, do all the dishes, maybe even scrub the counter.

Yet, going back to when I was a kid, whenever I would experience chatter, I would do this, something deep inside me would beckon myself to, it was like, remember Field of Dreams, like build it and they will come? For me, it was like, And you will experience relief. And so I would go and put things away. And I do this, I go into the kitchen, do all the dishes, maybe even scrub the counter.

Same, even. And then even masochistically, and tell me if you do this, sometimes I even go in my kids' rooms and put their stuff away. Of course. And all of a sudden, things feel a little bit better.

Same, even. And then even masochistically, and tell me if you do this, sometimes I even go in my kids' rooms and put their stuff away. Of course. And all of a sudden, things feel a little bit better.

Same, even. And then even masochistically, and tell me if you do this, sometimes I even go in my kids' rooms and put their stuff away. Of course. And all of a sudden, things feel a little bit better.

You're compensating for the lack of control you feel inside by trying to exert order and control around you. And now that you know how this works, you can weaponize this.

You're compensating for the lack of control you feel inside by trying to exert order and control around you. And now that you know how this works, you can weaponize this.

You're compensating for the lack of control you feel inside by trying to exert order and control around you. And now that you know how this works, you can weaponize this.

That's exactly right.

That's exactly right.

That's exactly right.

It's a way of organizing. And so these can be useful tools for helping people to constrain their chatter as long as we don't become over-reliant on them. And I'm giving you that caveat. That is true, by the way, of all the tools that we're talking about and that I write about.

It's a way of organizing. And so these can be useful tools for helping people to constrain their chatter as long as we don't become over-reliant on them. And I'm giving you that caveat. That is true, by the way, of all the tools that we're talking about and that I write about.

It's a way of organizing. And so these can be useful tools for helping people to constrain their chatter as long as we don't become over-reliant on them. And I'm giving you that caveat. That is true, by the way, of all the tools that we're talking about and that I write about.

Tell me.

Tell me.

Tell me.

Yeah.