Dr. Ethan Kross

And this is why we don't just have attention as a shifter, but we also have sensation, perspective. We have people shifters, we have space shifters, and culture shifters. So you don't have to choose between just either avoiding or approaching. But you also don't have to choose between just doing one of those and all of these other kinds of tools that are available to you.

And this is why we don't just have attention as a shifter, but we also have sensation, perspective. We have people shifters, we have space shifters, and culture shifters. So you don't have to choose between just either avoiding or approaching. But you also don't have to choose between just doing one of those and all of these other kinds of tools that are available to you.

You know me well. But look, but like this is so like, you know, in the book, I provide this decision tree, if you will, to how do you know if approaching is working or not? Sometimes approaching a problem.

You know me well. But look, but like this is so like, you know, in the book, I provide this decision tree, if you will, to how do you know if approaching is working or not? Sometimes approaching a problem.

You know me well. But look, but like this is so like, you know, in the book, I provide this decision tree, if you will, to how do you know if approaching is working or not? Sometimes approaching a problem.

doesn't actually work because you end up ruminating endlessly you try to work through this but you just think of this jerk who said this thing like why the hell did they have to say like why don't you say that to my face that's by the way my go-to like when someone you know said why don't you say this to my face like really this is how you do it like It can look at me. I'm getting lit up.

doesn't actually work because you end up ruminating endlessly you try to work through this but you just think of this jerk who said this thing like why the hell did they have to say like why don't you say that to my face that's by the way my go-to like when someone you know said why don't you say this to my face like really this is how you do it like It can look at me. I'm getting lit up.

doesn't actually work because you end up ruminating endlessly you try to work through this but you just think of this jerk who said this thing like why the hell did they have to say like why don't you say that to my face that's by the way my go-to like when someone you know said why don't you say this to my face like really this is how you do it like It can look at me. I'm getting lit up.

I don't even have a transgression in mind, and I'm getting aggravated on your behalf. That would be an indication that approach isn't working. Likewise, if you try to avoid, but you find that even when you're engaged with Engaging distractors, the thoughts just keep intruding about this problem, just keep coming back.

I don't even have a transgression in mind, and I'm getting aggravated on your behalf. That would be an indication that approach isn't working. Likewise, if you try to avoid, but you find that even when you're engaged with Engaging distractors, the thoughts just keep intruding about this problem, just keep coming back.

I don't even have a transgression in mind, and I'm getting aggravated on your behalf. That would be an indication that approach isn't working. Likewise, if you try to avoid, but you find that even when you're engaged with Engaging distractors, the thoughts just keep intruding about this problem, just keep coming back.

That's a cue that this kind of strategic avoidance may not be working and you should approach or do something else. So attention can be an incredibly powerful tool. In the book, I tell the story of my grandmother who... And as my hero growing up, she evaded the Nazis in Eastern Poland for several years. And she came over to the States with nothing, built a wonderful life.

That's a cue that this kind of strategic avoidance may not be working and you should approach or do something else. So attention can be an incredibly powerful tool. In the book, I tell the story of my grandmother who... And as my hero growing up, she evaded the Nazis in Eastern Poland for several years. And she came over to the States with nothing, built a wonderful life.

That's a cue that this kind of strategic avoidance may not be working and you should approach or do something else. So attention can be an incredibly powerful tool. In the book, I tell the story of my grandmother who... And as my hero growing up, she evaded the Nazis in Eastern Poland for several years. And she came over to the States with nothing, built a wonderful life.

And all I wanted to do growing up was hear her tell me stories about how she did it, how she managed to survive. And she would never tell me, never talk about it. She didn't want to go there. But she would allow herself to think about these issues, the war, once a year during a Remembrance Day ceremony. She lived a really great life, but she avoided thinking about the problem. She would dose it.

And all I wanted to do growing up was hear her tell me stories about how she did it, how she managed to survive. And she would never tell me, never talk about it. She didn't want to go there. But she would allow herself to think about these issues, the war, once a year during a Remembrance Day ceremony. She lived a really great life, but she avoided thinking about the problem. She would dose it.

And all I wanted to do growing up was hear her tell me stories about how she did it, how she managed to survive. And she would never tell me, never talk about it. She didn't want to go there. But she would allow herself to think about these issues, the war, once a year during a Remembrance Day ceremony. She lived a really great life, but she avoided thinking about the problem. She would dose it.

She's an example of how being strategic with your attention works for some people. But sometimes we don't have the luxury of looking away for a variety of reasons. We got to stare the problem right in the face. And we can't even, you know, pop our headphones on sometimes when we've got to look at that problem.

She's an example of how being strategic with your attention works for some people. But sometimes we don't have the luxury of looking away for a variety of reasons. We got to stare the problem right in the face. And we can't even, you know, pop our headphones on sometimes when we've got to look at that problem.

She's an example of how being strategic with your attention works for some people. But sometimes we don't have the luxury of looking away for a variety of reasons. We got to stare the problem right in the face. And we can't even, you know, pop our headphones on sometimes when we've got to look at that problem.