Dr. Gabor Maté

And I quoted it in The Myth of Normal.

And she knew what I didn't know.

And no, she was unhappy because of our relationship.

She was unhappy because of the relationship.

She was unhappy because of what was going on in her relationship with me, being a workaholic doctor.

Not, not being there and not being available emotionally.

Exactly.

Exactly.

And even blaming her, you know, for how I was feeling, you know?

Wow.

So she's talking to this infant inside her and that's how I opened one of the chapters.

So already in the uterus, these stresses starts happening.

A lot of evidence for that scientifically, brain scans, blood work, all kinds of stuff.

Then there's labor, which in our society is very often mechanical and emotionally very difficult.

And in the United States, 25% of women have to go back to work within two weeks of giving birth.

Now, that infant is meant to be with the mother for at least nine months, I would say years, but at least nine months.

That infant is abandoned at two weeks.

That's how they experience it.

Even if they're looked after by someone else, but the infant needs the mother's body.

And I'm not blaming the women.