Dr. Gabor Maté

Me?

Yeah.

Now, if you found out that this happened to your child and your child never told you, how would you explain that?

How would I explain it to?

How would you explain to yourself why my child is not talking to me about this terrible thing that happened?

And that was your primary trauma.

Yeah.

So the sexual abuse is a secondary trauma.

As a matter of fact, the abuser, like you were bullied in school, you said.

And the bullies can always sense the vulnerability.

The bullies have like a... The weakness in your... They have a laser like...

Here's an insecure, weak person, yeah.

Which, by the way, speaks to their own trauma.

Right.

But they have laser, like the physicians who abuse their patients, the spiritual leaders who do that to their followers.

They see a weakness.

They laser like they sense it, and that's who they pick on.

And the bullies do the same thing.

Now, that weakness...

as we call it, comes from not having the solid support and protection and confidence and security in your family of origin.