Dr. Gabor Maté

As we say in this book, there are congenial liars, but there are no congenital liars.

No one day old baby tells any lies.

No one day old baby pretends anything.

If we end up pretending in any way at all to the extent that we do, it's because we had to learn that's what we must do to survive.

That's what I meant, that they're sitting on this crater, volcanic crater of anger which sometimes bursts out of them.

So their demeanor is like a really developed, suppressed way of handling rage.

Which rage, when they were children, had they expressed?

Would have got them into more trouble.

So suppressing it, repressing it became their survival.

It's all about survival you see.

So it became their survival mechanism.

Now that person, as long as they keep it that way, they're at risk.

They're at risk for mental health diagnosis like depression.

Because what is depression?

It means you're pushing something down.

That's what it means.

What do we push down?

Our natural emotions.

Why do we push them down?

Because we have to survive.