Dr. Gabor Maté

And so when somebody says to me, no big deal, you know, I say, okay, take any other child in your position, plug them into that situation and tell them it's no big deal.

And of course, I wouldn't.

I mean, that's the whole point.

Right.

Is that they're not...

They're not comfortable with the child's pain.

Somebody crying, they're like, I can't handle it.

Well, one of the...

In the book, I talk about the essential needs of children.

And one of them is that they're given the freedom to feel all their emotions, particularly sadness and grief and pain, also joy and everything else.

But I don't know if you're comfortable talking about this, but what do you know about your dad's childhood?

Yeah.

So this goes on for a generation.

So not being seen as a major source of trauma.

Just not being seen in general.

Just not being seen for who you are.

Not being accepted for your authentic self.

Yeah, expected to be different than who you actually are.

It's a major trauma for people in society and it's very common.

You know, something as a privileged Caucasian identified male with