Dr. James Hollis

On the other hand, sooner or later, you have to say, but my journey is a different journey.

Maybe they're living theirs, but am I living mine?

And I don't mean this in any grandiose way.

I don't mean that they have to go out and become something that's noted in the society.

But to live in accord with something that is wishing its expression through us.

That's why I said the final question in life is what is...

wanting to live in this world through me rather than what do I want or what do my complexes want because they're noisy chatterers in there.

I had a dear friend from another state write to me just yesterday.

He's in semi-retirement now and has been dealing with some health issues.

He said, now that I'm not distracted, I have time to work on all the goblins of the past that I left behind.

He's an analyst.

So it's not like we get rid of these things.

They're lifelong.

This is why Jung said we can't solve these things, but we can outgrow them.

There's a big difference.

You become larger than what happened to you, for example.

You become larger than that voice inside of you that says you can do this, but you can't do that.

And over time, something inside of you is wishing that growth and pushing that, and again, pathologizes when that's blocked.

So people can be doing all the right things as defined by their values and their environment, and it violates something inside.

That's why we can be, quote, successful and achieve things, and it still feels empty.