Dr. James Hollis

Does that mean that their psyche is going to cooperate and give them that genuine sense of satisfaction in something?

No, it won't.

It's autonomous.

It's not going to get co-opted into that.

And sooner or later, you know, chickens come home to roost.

And then you have a depression, as I experienced.

And or you find your relationships are in tatters all around you.

So sooner or later, I mean, no revelation on my part, nature will express itself.

And if we live long enough, then everything that we've pushed underground is going to be coming up.

Well, just to go back to our earlier conversation for a moment, you know, why would those men have to drink every day?

And the answer is because there was some deep pain that they had to anesthetize.

of which they were by and large unaware, or presumably they would have the opportunity to address whatever that was.

And I'll come back to that in a moment.

I've been asked often to speak about men by women's groups.

And by the way, men's groups have never asked me to talk about women, right?

Is that right?

That's right.

Individuals such as yourself, but it's mostly women's groups have asked me to talk about those strange creatures called men.

And I say, imagine these three things.

First of all, that you cut away all your close friends, the women that you share your worries about your marriage with, about your children, about your body, your love life or lack thereof.