Dr. Jeff Karp
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first heard Nov 2024
last heard Nov 2024
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But one of the amazing things that I recognized is that as that was happening, I noticed that if I didn't jump out of the meditation, if I could hold myself there, that that thought and the emotion would actually subside. It would leave my mind.
And all of a sudden that became this light bulb moment for me because what I noticed was when I was in conversation with my wife, with my children, I started to notice the energy of the conversation.
I started to notice that if, let's say, my kids are teenagers and if they're speaking and all of a sudden I want to say something, I want to interject, the energy shifts from them to me and they stop speaking. And now it's on me, but that's not my intention. My intention is for them to find their voice, for me to be supportive of them and not for me to take over or for the attention to be on me.
And so the meditation helped me develop tools for navigating conversations with people, with everybody. And now I'm very... in my mind during conversations, it's wired in. I notice the energy of the conversation and I feel like the ADHD brain, because it's bouncing around and people with ADHD often forget what they're going to say and that can be painful.
And so you want to just jump out and say it. And through this process, I've been able to keep myself present so that I'm not jumping out and interjecting And whenever I do that, I feel like it's almost like this box appears in my mind. It's like a little checkmark because it feels like a win.
And when I do that, when I pause and think about that, anytime I've had just these moments of intentionality in my day, and I just pause in that moment and sort of check, you know, put a little check, it feels amazing. And it sort of fuels more intentionality.
Noticing your inner desire for possibility.
Is to take stock of what's working and what's holding you back. Mm-hmm. Because we always have things that are working for us and it's important to acknowledge them. Yes. Because that's empowering.
Because I think in our lives, we're often just living a single possibility. But in any moment, there's limitless possibilities. And to me, that's also one of the powers of diversity. One of the reasons why we need to flood our lives with diversity.
diverse ways of thinking and to spend time with people who think differently, who have different ways of being, different ways of acting, because what it can do is it can help you to identify other possibilities. It's what we use in my laboratory for solving problems. We use diversity as a superpower.
Pinching your brain is using your intention to focus your attention, to think or redirect your thinking throughout your day in meaningful ways.
Okay, I'll give you an example. I brought two pens, one for you.
Well, maybe, we'll see. So the way that we can practice pinch your brain is to take something in your environment and focus your attention on it and notice the nuances, right? And so this is something you can do anywhere in your life. You can do it inside, outside, any room.
And so if I say to you, okay, hold this pen in your hand, like typically we just grab the pen, we write with it and we put it back down. We don't think about it because our thoughts are moving all over the place. And so at this moment, we could say what we're going to do is pinch our brain just by focusing on the nuances of the pen.
So let's look at the pen together and say, okay, what are the different colors? What are the different textures? How is the light reflecting off the pen? Is there any writing on it? What does it say? Turn the pen around, start to look at it. And what we're actually doing here is we're using our intention to focus our attention. We're squeezing out the other thoughts and we're focusing on the pen.
Now, this seems really simple and you're like, okay, how is that helpful? But what I found is that if you do this, if you make a practice of it, And you can do it outside as you're going for a walk. You can look at the texture of the bark on the trees. You can look at the clouds. There's so many things to look at.
When you start to notice the nuances, you start to also not only focusing your attention, you're connecting with what you're looking at. And there's this energy exchange that happens.
So every time that you do this, it's like a bicep curl for your attention.
Very good. Okay.
Because when you have ADHD, your mind is filled with multiple thoughts that are just constantly bouncing around. And you're... frequently finding yourself not using your intention for where your attention is focused. So I think in today's society, our attention is so atomized because we have stimuli coming at us from every direction.
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