Dr. Jeff Karp
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first heard Nov 2024
last heard Nov 2024
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what's that other possibility that can switch us from fight or flight and put us into that moment where we feel empowered, we feel connected, we feel like we're truly sharing what we have with everybody.
Absolutely. Great.
One of the tools that you can use in this situation is called flip the switch.
And it's all about recognizing patterns that don't match up.
Okay. So here's an example of flip the switch. Okay. My ADHD really created a lot of struggles for me early on, my learning differences. And in the seventh grade, I was actually identified as having learning differences and ADHD, and I got some accommodations. And that was really a pivotal moment for me.
But what happened was, is that my ADHD was still really problematic and troublesome for me, my learning differences, and it just presented daily challenges. And so I really needed, everything took me two or three times longer than everybody else. I would constantly be staying after school.
I'd go in on weekends to meet with teachers, the ones that would be available all through high school, like, you know, whenever I could. I just, it was always like a, it was like I was trudging through, I don't even know what, but it was just slow, slow, slow progress and everything. And so I needed to find ways to become more efficient. And so I started to just focus my attention on efficiency.
And I was just so focused on becoming more efficient that over time, I started to become more efficient. I started to be able to do more. I started to be able to focus my attention At will, I started to be able to navigate the world in ways that I had never navigated before to be able to learn and to succeed in my classes. And I started to thrive.
And what happened was I got so addicted to the dopamine hits from my work because now I was just able to just do almost like two marathons worth of work in a day. And when COVID hit, everything came crashing down in my living room. I had realized that I was completely out of touch.
I'd be going to birthday parties and I would be trying to network with other parents who were there versus focusing on the purpose of the birthday party, which was to connect with my children. And I would be at soccer practices and I would be trying to get my 10,000 steps. I'd be walking around the soccer field You sound pretty intense. Over and over and over again to get my 10,000 steps.
I'd be going for walks with my dogs and I would have Netflix on the phone and I'd watch an episode of Game of Thrones as I took them for a walk around the neighborhood. You're that guy? I was that guy. I was that guy. And it was all because I had been so focused on just that I was just so addicted to the dopamine that I was getting from my work because I became very efficient.
I was able to do way more than I had ever done before. But that was actually taking me off track. Got it. And COVID was this unintentional pause where everything came crashing down, literally in my living room. And I was like, okay, I need to change. And that's where I engaged Flip the Switch, which is a four-step process.
So the first step is to notice your inner desire for possibility. So it's this idea that in that moment, I knew that there was another way of living, another way of being. There was something I could do that I wasn't doing and I felt disconnected. So I really was in touch with other possibilities that I needed to discover.
The second step is to take stock of what's working and what's holding you back.
And I had developed these incredible efficiencies in my lab, in my work. Things were going extremely well. But at home, it was a completely different scenario. It's like I looked up and all of a sudden, my son was quarterback of the high school football team. My kids were teenagers. All these years had passed. And I felt there was something deep that was missing.
There was something more that I needed to engage. I needed to figure this out. I needed to turn inward. And so that is what was holding me back. And the third step was to consider other possibilities, other ways of thinking. And at the time, my wife... was engaged in sort of seeking out these answers to some spiritual questions that she had.
And she was speaking to some spiritual leaders in the community. And I was like, you know, it took me a while to kind of look around. I was like, oh my God, she's having these conversations. These are the conversations that I need to be having at this moment. I identified this was a third step. The other possibilities are right in front of me.
And the fourth step is to take a deliberate step forward. And so I asked my wife to introduce me to these spiritual people that she was engaging and she did. And I started to meet with them. And I started practicing meditation. I tried it before and it didn't really work like apps and all these things. But I sort of was connected to transcendental meditation.
which is this one word mantra that you say over and over in your mind. And what I started to notice as I practiced it, and I practiced it for two or three months, that's all actually I needed. And what I noticed was that these thoughts would come into my mind. There would usually be an emotion associated with the thought.
And I'd be in the middle of meditation and I'd be like, oh my God, I didn't write that email. And I'd be jumping out of the meditation. You need a seatbelt in your own meditation. I needed a seatbelt. Or a notepad to jot it down.
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