Dr. Jenny Taitz

And maybe we have beliefs about other people of like,

people just want something from me or beliefs about the future of like things won't work out.

And it's really, really hard to like let facts penetrate if we hold on to these ways, like these, we see the world through these kind of specific glasses.

And so it's helpful to kind of think about like your life and how did you come to see yourself?

How did you come to see other people?

How did you come to see kind of your future and see like, what are my core beliefs and how do they make sense?

And so a lot of people that I've

see that have been like let's say bullied feel like there's something kind of wrong with them or they're not lovable or they're not cool and maybe that leads to behaviors like avoiding initiating relationships or reaching out to people or putting themselves out there wholeheartedly and just kind of like

Doing what they think is like, you know, what they're supposed to do.

And so taking a step back and thinking about like, what are my beliefs?

What behaviors would I do to kind of transcend them?

And what would I do if I didn't believe these things?

Maybe I would just wear what I wanted to wear and do what I wanted to do and not feel like I needed to fix.

And so I think it's helpful to think about like, what are the ways I see myself and are they...

not helpful and are they not relevant in this moment and and that also leads to a lot of self-compassion it was really hard to at a you know pivotal age to have had a negative experience how can i um give myself the freedom of changing that now

So who cares?

I think it just speaks to like our minds tell us these things and then they really affect the scope of our lives and what we choose to do.

And who knows, like maybe you would actually enjoy pickup basketball.

But our minds kind of create these narratives and then we let our behaviors like follow.

And what if we choose our behaviors and like expand our minds?