Dr. Jenny Taitz

Yeah.

No, I really relate to that.

I was thinking about what my example would be.

And it's like, my parents got divorced when I was young and my mom got remarried and my stepdad was kind of like a cliche stepdad of like calling me an idiot when I was seven years old.

And I think I adopted this idea that I'm like not smart enough or I'm not good enough.

You know, I think we both collected the external validation around good enough.

But like, what if I just see that the thought that I'm an idiot or I'm not smart enough is just a mental event from this childhood experience?

Yeah.

And like that is an understandable thing to hold on to, but I don't need to be fixing it in the way of external achievement after external achievement.

And like those things like aren't satisfying because they don't change the core belief unless you understand the core belief.

And what would you do if you didn't believe that to be true?

Like maybe take a break from the good enough external pursuits or validations.

Exactly.

And just to tie one thread with the core beliefs, I think everyone has these.

And I don't want you to think that like,

there's something wrong with you if you do.

Like I was at a professional conference that was pretty experiential and we all had to wear name tags.

And instead of it saying like Chris or Jenny, it said,

I'm a terrible person.

If people really knew me, they wouldn't like me.