Dr. Jenny Taitz

But DBT is almost like a class where your therapist teaches you a specific curriculum that includes four modules.

mindfulness, how to be present in the moment without judgment and in a way that allows for more joy.

interpersonal effectiveness, how to assert yourself, ask for what you want, maintain relationships, be skillful in maintaining your objective, self-respect, and your relationships.

Emotion regulation, how to manage your emotions so they're kind of more on a dimmer system rather than an on-off switch.

And distress tolerance, how to cope with crises without making them worse.

And DBT is a gold standard treatment for people that struggle with things like suicidality and self-harm.

Substance use, a lot of

co-occurring problems but i think the dbt skills are amazing and so one of my goals in writing stress resets is to like disseminate these to the masses because like every dbt therapist i know myself included feels like this is so cool we won like the career lottery i i have all these like cool tools at my disposal i could use them in my life i could teach them to friends but like

why not use them preventatively or to enhance quality of life?

Like they don't need to just be used for crises or when you're at your lowest point.

Absolutely.

Yeah, I mean, so again, like you can get into a car accident and think like, this is terrible.

I'm never going to drive again.

I've had patients that live in places like L.A.

where you need to drive.

And it's like this thing happened to me and

game over I will never drive myself I will be taking an uber I will not drive on the freeway I'm just gonna take roads but we have to you know learn to this thing happened it was really awful it was unexpected it makes total sense that I feel anxious and stressed and I'm gonna choose like what would I do if I wholeheartedly approach this with like a beginner's mind or like this was my first time doing this thing and obviously I'm gonna be cautious I'm gonna be careful and I'm

I'm going to totally accept any additional stress in my body as I approach this, but to continue.

I think that that is a really common example of self-invalidation.

Like, both things are true.