Dr. John Delony

But when we tell somebody, especially our spouse, that's inside of a great marriage, that y'all are working hard, y'all are doing things, y'all are being intentional, all that stuff.

I need you to X, Y, and Z to make me feel a certain way.

What we're doing is we're taking a cinder block out of our chest and we're handing it to them and saying, you have to do this, otherwise I drown.

And I think that that sets up sometimes a false reality.

So I wanted to use what is scarier, more vulnerable language.

Because like, let me say it this way.

If somebody on the street needed you, one time I was walking into the College of Education building at Texas Tech, and this woman had been, these two women were on a run, and this woman was going into a diabetic coma.

And she's like, she needs candy now.

I didn't know them, but I got up and went to work, right?

I went inside, got one of the vending machines, got a candy bar out, and ran outside, right?

We would do anything for somebody who needs something, even strangers.

Scarier question.

What do you want from your husband?

Keep going.

Because I think you want more than a moment.

Maybe not.

Maybe I'm wrong.

But most people want more than a moment.

Nope.

Now you're starting to like, now you're starting to feel the weight of want and you're like, I mean, but it's okay.