Dr. John Gottman

Well, by then, if he turns away, he's walking out of the kitchen. He's not going to hear the bid for connection. Or he can say, yeah, sure. Simple as that. Sometimes the need is deeper. So a bid for connection might sound like this. It might be, let's say I'm sitting on the couch this time and staring out the window.

Well, by then, if he turns away, he's walking out of the kitchen. He's not going to hear the bid for connection. Or he can say, yeah, sure. Simple as that. Sometimes the need is deeper. So a bid for connection might sound like this. It might be, let's say I'm sitting on the couch this time and staring out the window.

I've just heard some news on TV that's political and my mouth is turned to the south. It's very down on the corners. Well, I know. John can look at me and say, gosh, what's the matter, honey? And I'll say, God, can I just download with you? Can I just tell you what's going on inside me? I'm just so depressed about what's happening in our country. And he can say, yeah, me too. Let's talk about it.

I've just heard some news on TV that's political and my mouth is turned to the south. It's very down on the corners. Well, I know. John can look at me and say, gosh, what's the matter, honey? And I'll say, God, can I just download with you? Can I just tell you what's going on inside me? I'm just so depressed about what's happening in our country. And he can say, yeah, me too. Let's talk about it.

I've just heard some news on TV that's political and my mouth is turned to the south. It's very down on the corners. Well, I know. John can look at me and say, gosh, what's the matter, honey? And I'll say, God, can I just download with you? Can I just tell you what's going on inside me? I'm just so depressed about what's happening in our country. And he can say, yeah, me too. Let's talk about it.

And then we do. And we may have an hour, two hour long conversation. So, you know, that's a deeper bit for connection. But equally important are those little bids for connection, too, in which we're constantly turning towards each other when the other person asks for something subtly.

And then we do. And we may have an hour, two hour long conversation. So, you know, that's a deeper bit for connection. But equally important are those little bids for connection, too, in which we're constantly turning towards each other when the other person asks for something subtly.

And then we do. And we may have an hour, two hour long conversation. So, you know, that's a deeper bit for connection. But equally important are those little bids for connection, too, in which we're constantly turning towards each other when the other person asks for something subtly.

Here's another little simple bit for connection. Let's say John is getting ready to get out the door, and he's having a hard time zipping up his jacket, and, you know, keeps messing up with the zipper, and he's trying and trying, and you can hear him making little sounds like... And so all I'll do is I'll just say, let me do it, honey. And I'll figure out a way to zip up his jacket.

Here's another little simple bit for connection. Let's say John is getting ready to get out the door, and he's having a hard time zipping up his jacket, and, you know, keeps messing up with the zipper, and he's trying and trying, and you can hear him making little sounds like... And so all I'll do is I'll just say, let me do it, honey. And I'll figure out a way to zip up his jacket.

Here's another little simple bit for connection. Let's say John is getting ready to get out the door, and he's having a hard time zipping up his jacket, and, you know, keeps messing up with the zipper, and he's trying and trying, and you can hear him making little sounds like... And so all I'll do is I'll just say, let me do it, honey. And I'll figure out a way to zip up his jacket.

You know, it's just simple, simple.

You know, it's just simple, simple.

You know, it's just simple, simple.

Yes, it did. Kiss on the cheek. Right. But, you know, I mean, there's just so many ways that we can be interlinked. And can I bring up something, Drew? Please. Yeah, there's, you know, there's a lot of people out there who've heard that you should never be dependent on each other. You shouldn't lean on each other. You should be independent.

Yes, it did. Kiss on the cheek. Right. But, you know, I mean, there's just so many ways that we can be interlinked. And can I bring up something, Drew? Please. Yeah, there's, you know, there's a lot of people out there who've heard that you should never be dependent on each other. You shouldn't lean on each other. You should be independent.

Yes, it did. Kiss on the cheek. Right. But, you know, I mean, there's just so many ways that we can be interlinked. And can I bring up something, Drew? Please. Yeah, there's, you know, there's a lot of people out there who've heard that you should never be dependent on each other. You shouldn't lean on each other. You should be independent.

You know, you should be able to stand up on your own two feet because if you lean on each other, you'll somehow become symbiotic. You'll depend on each other. Codependent. Codependent. You'll depend on each other too much or something. And I'm here to tell you that there's absolutely no research behind that. It's wrong.

You know, you should be able to stand up on your own two feet because if you lean on each other, you'll somehow become symbiotic. You'll depend on each other. Codependent. Codependent. You'll depend on each other too much or something. And I'm here to tell you that there's absolutely no research behind that. It's wrong.

You know, you should be able to stand up on your own two feet because if you lean on each other, you'll somehow become symbiotic. You'll depend on each other. Codependent. Codependent. You'll depend on each other too much or something. And I'm here to tell you that there's absolutely no research behind that. It's wrong.