Dr. Jordan B. Peterson

That's neuroticism.

one of the big five traits.

Tell me the question again.

Oh, yes.

So one of the... Okay, so I outlined a sequence of negative emotions that were associated with the trait proclivity for negative emotion.

Here is another.

Self-consciousness.

There is no technical difference between thinking about yourself and being miserable.

Right.

So if you're thinking about yourself, you're wrestling with yourself in misery.

When Tammy was talking about dealing with her grief, what did she say?

She said she was feeling bitter and resentful because people weren't delivering to her what she felt was due her in her suffering.

Now, you can kind of understand that, you know, because her father had just died, and you could think what kind of a son-of-a-bitch husband would leave his wife under such circumstances.

Look, it was a question we wrestled with because there was conflicting moral obligations at that moment.

But what she realized was that she realized what...

only she could realize, which was that insofar as her suffering was a consequence of her fault, the reason for that suffering is that her aim was inappropriate.

She wasn't looking up enough.

So she looked up and she said, well, I need to reestablish my relationship with what's highest.

I need to realign my aim properly.

away from bitterness and resentment, towards only that which is optimally good.