Dr. Julie Gottman
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You counterattack.
So then I moved in to you, you, you, you, and it was all about character flaws.
He's a slob.
That's right.
See this?
It's a halo.
And notice, did you see any listening there?
No.
Zero listening, right?
That's right.
So people were talking over each other and immediately coming up with their rebuke before even hearing the last words of their sentence of the partner.
63 times later, have I listened?
No.
satisfy you it's just like i kind of give up you know what am i supposed to do to make you happy oh god that sounds actually like a pretty terrible feeling yeah so you're really frustrated because there's nothing you can do that you feel is good enough is that right am i making you feel that way yeah
Oh, dear.
What am I doing that leads to you feeling that way?
Because I don't want you to feel that way.
I don't want to treat you that way.
Do you want me to tell you what they are?
Oh, gosh.