Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman

Conan, how many decades have you been together?

Three decades. Okay, so my guess is that if you really, really wanted to, you could work elsewhere, but you don't want to.

Three decades. Okay, so my guess is that if you really, really wanted to, you could work elsewhere, but you don't want to.

Three decades. Okay, so my guess is that if you really, really wanted to, you could work elsewhere, but you don't want to.

Okay.

Okay.

Okay.

Yeah, we're great. OK, so. When you are hitting at him, he, of course, blocks you. But when you say, look, I really respect you, and you meant that, seriously, I could tell it wasn't made up, boom, you push it back. Off it goes. Doesn't go inside. Just bounces off. I'm terrible at taking a compliment. I saw that. Why?

Yeah, we're great. OK, so. When you are hitting at him, he, of course, blocks you. But when you say, look, I really respect you, and you meant that, seriously, I could tell it wasn't made up, boom, you push it back. Off it goes. Doesn't go inside. Just bounces off. I'm terrible at taking a compliment. I saw that. Why?

Yeah, we're great. OK, so. When you are hitting at him, he, of course, blocks you. But when you say, look, I really respect you, and you meant that, seriously, I could tell it wasn't made up, boom, you push it back. Off it goes. Doesn't go inside. Just bounces off. I'm terrible at taking a compliment. I saw that. Why?

It feels good to have those compliments, Conan.

It feels good to have those compliments, Conan.

It feels good to have those compliments, Conan.

That is sad because those compliments could probably do a lot to heal all that shame inside, fear inside, feeling attacked always if you let in those compliments.

That is sad because those compliments could probably do a lot to heal all that shame inside, fear inside, feeling attacked always if you let in those compliments.

That is sad because those compliments could probably do a lot to heal all that shame inside, fear inside, feeling attacked always if you let in those compliments.

That's right.

That's right.

That's right.

Yeah.