Dr. Julie Smith

there's loads to that depending on what you're facing at any given point. And I would kind of break it down into, there are certain things where people struggle, no matter what the details of your problem is and what life's throwing at you, a lot of people struggle with, okay, emotions. So,

there's loads to that depending on what you're facing at any given point. And I would kind of break it down into, there are certain things where people struggle, no matter what the details of your problem is and what life's throwing at you, a lot of people struggle with, okay, emotions. So,

People will often come into therapy, you know, diagnosable or not, people will come to therapy and they'll say, you know, I've got these feelings that I don't want to have. I'm having too much of those. And I'm missing a lot of the nice, pleasant ones that I used to have more. I would like some of those back, please. So a lot of it is a sort of, there's some skills around emotion regulation.

People will often come into therapy, you know, diagnosable or not, people will come to therapy and they'll say, you know, I've got these feelings that I don't want to have. I'm having too much of those. And I'm missing a lot of the nice, pleasant ones that I used to have more. I would like some of those back, please. So a lot of it is a sort of, there's some skills around emotion regulation.

People will often come into therapy, you know, diagnosable or not, people will come to therapy and they'll say, you know, I've got these feelings that I don't want to have. I'm having too much of those. And I'm missing a lot of the nice, pleasant ones that I used to have more. I would like some of those back, please. So a lot of it is a sort of, there's some skills around emotion regulation.

So there are things you can do to help you regulate the negative emotion, not make them disappear. So that there's a learning about, okay, emotion is normal human experience and it's information. It's not something that's wrong with you. If you experience sadness or anger or anxiety, it doesn't necessarily mean there's something wrong with you. It's a normal part of human experience.

So there are things you can do to help you regulate the negative emotion, not make them disappear. So that there's a learning about, okay, emotion is normal human experience and it's information. It's not something that's wrong with you. If you experience sadness or anger or anxiety, it doesn't necessarily mean there's something wrong with you. It's a normal part of human experience.

So there are things you can do to help you regulate the negative emotion, not make them disappear. So that there's a learning about, okay, emotion is normal human experience and it's information. It's not something that's wrong with you. If you experience sadness or anger or anxiety, it doesn't necessarily mean there's something wrong with you. It's a normal part of human experience.

So often what we do in therapy is we take the judgment out of it and we look at it with curiosity instead. All emotion is information. It has something to tell you, usually about what you need or what's going on around you. So there's this kind of shift around emotion regulation and learning about emotion. But then there's also stuff about thoughts.

So often what we do in therapy is we take the judgment out of it and we look at it with curiosity instead. All emotion is information. It has something to tell you, usually about what you need or what's going on around you. So there's this kind of shift around emotion regulation and learning about emotion. But then there's also stuff about thoughts.

So often what we do in therapy is we take the judgment out of it and we look at it with curiosity instead. All emotion is information. It has something to tell you, usually about what you need or what's going on around you. So there's this kind of shift around emotion regulation and learning about emotion. But then there's also stuff about thoughts.

that people struggle with with thoughts so all this stuff online about you know only positive vibes and don't have negative thoughts and and that really sets people up to feel like they're failing because inevitably they have negative thoughts they have judgments they have self-critical thoughts and when they have them they then think they're failing at being a positive person and

that people struggle with with thoughts so all this stuff online about you know only positive vibes and don't have negative thoughts and and that really sets people up to feel like they're failing because inevitably they have negative thoughts they have judgments they have self-critical thoughts and when they have them they then think they're failing at being a positive person and

that people struggle with with thoughts so all this stuff online about you know only positive vibes and don't have negative thoughts and and that really sets people up to feel like they're failing because inevitably they have negative thoughts they have judgments they have self-critical thoughts and when they have them they then think they're failing at being a positive person and

Whereas often what you would use in therapy that's really helpful, and I use this all the time, is the idea of kind of thought diffusion where you get yourself a bird's eye view of what's going on in your head. And you kind of look at the pattern of, okay, these thoughts are coming in and those thoughts are coming in.

Whereas often what you would use in therapy that's really helpful, and I use this all the time, is the idea of kind of thought diffusion where you get yourself a bird's eye view of what's going on in your head. And you kind of look at the pattern of, okay, these thoughts are coming in and those thoughts are coming in.

Whereas often what you would use in therapy that's really helpful, and I use this all the time, is the idea of kind of thought diffusion where you get yourself a bird's eye view of what's going on in your head. And you kind of look at the pattern of, okay, these thoughts are coming in and those thoughts are coming in.

And these are all possible perspectives that I can take on this, but I have the choice. So it's this idea that your attention is like a spotlight. And if all your kind of thoughts were actors on the stage, you've got control of the spotlight. So what most people try to do is scramble up onto the stage and pull actors off the stage.

And these are all possible perspectives that I can take on this, but I have the choice. So it's this idea that your attention is like a spotlight. And if all your kind of thoughts were actors on the stage, you've got control of the spotlight. So what most people try to do is scramble up onto the stage and pull actors off the stage.

And these are all possible perspectives that I can take on this, but I have the choice. So it's this idea that your attention is like a spotlight. And if all your kind of thoughts were actors on the stage, you've got control of the spotlight. So what most people try to do is scramble up onto the stage and pull actors off the stage.