Dr. Julie Smith

a people pleaser or something because of how things were set up in your childhood, you'll probably feel guilty all the time when you feel like you might have upset someone. And that's not necessarily warranted. That's a pattern. So sometimes...

You know, if we if we engage in sort of emotional reasoning, right, which is that bias of I feel it, therefore it's true, that can get us into all sorts of trouble. So if because I feel guilt, that means I'm a terrible parent, then I'm going to have a terrible time.

You know, if we if we engage in sort of emotional reasoning, right, which is that bias of I feel it, therefore it's true, that can get us into all sorts of trouble. So if because I feel guilt, that means I'm a terrible parent, then I'm going to have a terrible time.

You know, if we if we engage in sort of emotional reasoning, right, which is that bias of I feel it, therefore it's true, that can get us into all sorts of trouble. So if because I feel guilt, that means I'm a terrible parent, then I'm going to have a terrible time.

So if you feel guilt and you don't recognize it as a normal part of being a parent, then you're likely to just think that you're failing all the time.

So if you feel guilt and you don't recognize it as a normal part of being a parent, then you're likely to just think that you're failing all the time.

So if you feel guilt and you don't recognize it as a normal part of being a parent, then you're likely to just think that you're failing all the time.

Yeah. And it is important to listen to it anyway, isn't it? Because like I say, even if you've got the values and you know it's there, it might be an indication that, you know, I do feel guilty. So maybe I need to just redress the balance a little bit. So, you know, I think people talk about balance as if you find this perfect spot and then you just don't move. And that's the perfect way to live.

Yeah. And it is important to listen to it anyway, isn't it? Because like I say, even if you've got the values and you know it's there, it might be an indication that, you know, I do feel guilty. So maybe I need to just redress the balance a little bit. So, you know, I think people talk about balance as if you find this perfect spot and then you just don't move. And that's the perfect way to live.

Yeah. And it is important to listen to it anyway, isn't it? Because like I say, even if you've got the values and you know it's there, it might be an indication that, you know, I do feel guilty. So maybe I need to just redress the balance a little bit. So, you know, I think people talk about balance as if you find this perfect spot and then you just don't move. And that's the perfect way to live.

And it really isn't that, you know, if you... If you see someone on a balancing beam or a tightrope, they're always doing this. They're always moving slightly from side to side and readjusting, readjusting. Notice when you're going off too far, readjust.

And it really isn't that, you know, if you... If you see someone on a balancing beam or a tightrope, they're always doing this. They're always moving slightly from side to side and readjusting, readjusting. Notice when you're going off too far, readjust.

And it really isn't that, you know, if you... If you see someone on a balancing beam or a tightrope, they're always doing this. They're always moving slightly from side to side and readjusting, readjusting. Notice when you're going off too far, readjust.

And particularly for, you know, as a working parent, I find that's constantly, if you can listen to those feelings when they happen, it can be, it's information. It's, you know, do I need to just spend some more time with them?

And particularly for, you know, as a working parent, I find that's constantly, if you can listen to those feelings when they happen, it can be, it's information. It's, you know, do I need to just spend some more time with them?

And particularly for, you know, as a working parent, I find that's constantly, if you can listen to those feelings when they happen, it can be, it's information. It's, you know, do I need to just spend some more time with them?

Yeah, do I need to block out the weekend and just play?

Yeah, do I need to block out the weekend and just play?

Yeah, do I need to block out the weekend and just play?

Yeah, yeah, absolutely. And it's all about opportunities to learn, isn't it? And like you say, if a child has been used to having you there, you know, that sort of post-lockdown kind of experience for lots of parents, actually, where, you know, everyone had been at home for many months. It was really difficult for young children to then go to nursery or go to school or, you know…