Dr. Julie Smith

Yeah, yeah, absolutely. And it's all about opportunities to learn, isn't it? And like you say, if a child has been used to having you there, you know, that sort of post-lockdown kind of experience for lots of parents, actually, where, you know, everyone had been at home for many months. It was really difficult for young children to then go to nursery or go to school or, you know…

Yeah, yeah, absolutely. And it's all about opportunities to learn, isn't it? And like you say, if a child has been used to having you there, you know, that sort of post-lockdown kind of experience for lots of parents, actually, where, you know, everyone had been at home for many months. It was really difficult for young children to then go to nursery or go to school or, you know…

Yeah, so often these things feel confusing until you hear someone's story and then it makes complete sense. I've had so many of these moments with people in the room where they come in and think, you're just not going to understand this. This is just bizarre and complex and I don't get it. And then you spend a decent amount of time going through someone's story and

Yeah, so often these things feel confusing until you hear someone's story and then it makes complete sense. I've had so many of these moments with people in the room where they come in and think, you're just not going to understand this. This is just bizarre and complex and I don't get it. And then you spend a decent amount of time going through someone's story and

Yeah, so often these things feel confusing until you hear someone's story and then it makes complete sense. I've had so many of these moments with people in the room where they come in and think, you're just not going to understand this. This is just bizarre and complex and I don't get it. And then you spend a decent amount of time going through someone's story and

and then you get to this lovely point where you kind of say to each other of course of course it is this way how could it not be given everything that's happened and you know there isn't sort of one story or one scenario that always leads to people pleasing there are lots of different ones and but I think it's important to distinguish that people pleasing isn't being a nice person it's it's so much more than that it's um

and then you get to this lovely point where you kind of say to each other of course of course it is this way how could it not be given everything that's happened and you know there isn't sort of one story or one scenario that always leads to people pleasing there are lots of different ones and but I think it's important to distinguish that people pleasing isn't being a nice person it's it's so much more than that it's um

and then you get to this lovely point where you kind of say to each other of course of course it is this way how could it not be given everything that's happened and you know there isn't sort of one story or one scenario that always leads to people pleasing there are lots of different ones and but I think it's important to distinguish that people pleasing isn't being a nice person it's it's so much more than that it's um

It's being absolutely vigilant to how other people feel and placing that as your absolute priority over and above your own well-being, your own health, anything. It's just terrifying the thought of displeasing someone else or experiencing their disapproval or them not liking you or rejecting you. And so I've seen people who live in turmoil trying to...

It's being absolutely vigilant to how other people feel and placing that as your absolute priority over and above your own well-being, your own health, anything. It's just terrifying the thought of displeasing someone else or experiencing their disapproval or them not liking you or rejecting you. And so I've seen people who live in turmoil trying to...

It's being absolutely vigilant to how other people feel and placing that as your absolute priority over and above your own well-being, your own health, anything. It's just terrifying the thought of displeasing someone else or experiencing their disapproval or them not liking you or rejecting you. And so I've seen people who live in turmoil trying to...

please everybody around them and keep them pleased, which is not sustainable. And so it creates chaos where you're constantly chasing your tail and it gives other people a lot of power over you. So you can end up in relationships that are sort of exploitive or just not healthy for you. I think it's one of those things that's banded around and it's something that a lot of us do in bits and bobs.

please everybody around them and keep them pleased, which is not sustainable. And so it creates chaos where you're constantly chasing your tail and it gives other people a lot of power over you. So you can end up in relationships that are sort of exploitive or just not healthy for you. I think it's one of those things that's banded around and it's something that a lot of us do in bits and bobs.

please everybody around them and keep them pleased, which is not sustainable. And so it creates chaos where you're constantly chasing your tail and it gives other people a lot of power over you. So you can end up in relationships that are sort of exploitive or just not healthy for you. I think it's one of those things that's banded around and it's something that a lot of us do in bits and bobs.

Sometimes I'm like that or in certain situations I'm like that and some people spend their lives really, really struggling with it.

Sometimes I'm like that or in certain situations I'm like that and some people spend their lives really, really struggling with it.

Sometimes I'm like that or in certain situations I'm like that and some people spend their lives really, really struggling with it.

I think is one of the most important skills anyone will ever learn, actually, because you put yourself at risk. If you can't say no when you need to, or you can't hold boundaries, and there's that people-pleasing tendency. So if everything is about everybody else and what they want from you... and that's where it's not the same as being a nice person.

I think is one of the most important skills anyone will ever learn, actually, because you put yourself at risk. If you can't say no when you need to, or you can't hold boundaries, and there's that people-pleasing tendency. So if everything is about everybody else and what they want from you... and that's where it's not the same as being a nice person.

I think is one of the most important skills anyone will ever learn, actually, because you put yourself at risk. If you can't say no when you need to, or you can't hold boundaries, and there's that people-pleasing tendency. So if everything is about everybody else and what they want from you... and that's where it's not the same as being a nice person.