Dr. Julie Smith

get sucked into kind of joining the circus in that way and playing the game um the more you lose i think um so a lot of it is about watching and learning you know if someone reveals themselves to you that they're not okay with you in a certain way or um that that friendship is now conditional on you i don't know making yourself smaller or um

get sucked into kind of joining the circus in that way and playing the game um the more you lose i think um so a lot of it is about watching and learning you know if someone reveals themselves to you that they're not okay with you in a certain way or um that that friendship is now conditional on you i don't know making yourself smaller or um

get sucked into kind of joining the circus in that way and playing the game um the more you lose i think um so a lot of it is about watching and learning you know if someone reveals themselves to you that they're not okay with you in a certain way or um that that friendship is now conditional on you i don't know making yourself smaller or um

not doing certain things or associating with certain people um then all you can do is learn from that and make your own decisions then about whether that's a friendship for you or whether that's something that the friendship can overcome you know it might be a blip but it might also be something bigger yeah i am intimately familiar with passive aggression and uh

not doing certain things or associating with certain people um then all you can do is learn from that and make your own decisions then about whether that's a friendship for you or whether that's something that the friendship can overcome you know it might be a blip but it might also be something bigger yeah i am intimately familiar with passive aggression and uh

not doing certain things or associating with certain people um then all you can do is learn from that and make your own decisions then about whether that's a friendship for you or whether that's something that the friendship can overcome you know it might be a blip but it might also be something bigger yeah i am intimately familiar with passive aggression and uh

Is that what happened for you in your situation?

Is that what happened for you in your situation?

Is that what happened for you in your situation?

Yeah. And there's a big decision to make, isn't there, when someone is behaving in that way towards you. And, you know, friendships are valuable. So, you know, it's important not to make that decision impulsively, but to, like you say, do that over time. So, you know, someone might make a mistake because they're having a hard time and that might change and get better after a while.

Yeah. And there's a big decision to make, isn't there, when someone is behaving in that way towards you. And, you know, friendships are valuable. So, you know, it's important not to make that decision impulsively, but to, like you say, do that over time. So, you know, someone might make a mistake because they're having a hard time and that might change and get better after a while.

Yeah. And there's a big decision to make, isn't there, when someone is behaving in that way towards you. And, you know, friendships are valuable. So, you know, it's important not to make that decision impulsively, but to, like you say, do that over time. So, you know, someone might make a mistake because they're having a hard time and that might change and get better after a while.

Or it might not. And so with that sort of watch and learn approach, take it in, adjust the amount that you trust someone. So adjust how much you share with them, adjust how much you trust them to know certain information or whatever.

Or it might not. And so with that sort of watch and learn approach, take it in, adjust the amount that you trust someone. So adjust how much you share with them, adjust how much you trust them to know certain information or whatever.

Or it might not. And so with that sort of watch and learn approach, take it in, adjust the amount that you trust someone. So adjust how much you share with them, adjust how much you trust them to know certain information or whatever.

So that you can kind of, not so that you're always guarded, but so that you're just protecting yourself if this person is revealing themselves not to have your best interests at heart. And then gradually come to a decision about whether this friendship is really for you or not, whether it really adds to your life or if it actually takes away from your life.

So that you can kind of, not so that you're always guarded, but so that you're just protecting yourself if this person is revealing themselves not to have your best interests at heart. And then gradually come to a decision about whether this friendship is really for you or not, whether it really adds to your life or if it actually takes away from your life.

So that you can kind of, not so that you're always guarded, but so that you're just protecting yourself if this person is revealing themselves not to have your best interests at heart. And then gradually come to a decision about whether this friendship is really for you or not, whether it really adds to your life or if it actually takes away from your life.

But yeah, I think sometimes that decision has to come just carefully and considered so that you're not sort of impulsively pushing someone out and then later realize that there might have been an explanation for it.

But yeah, I think sometimes that decision has to come just carefully and considered so that you're not sort of impulsively pushing someone out and then later realize that there might have been an explanation for it.