Dr. K

Everyone wants to not expend effort or maximize the gain that they get from an effort, which is still greed at the fundamental.

So dharma allows you to not do that.

So when you do dharma, it opens up your options.

So dharma is fundamentally what allows you to give up gratification and live in a different way.

So it completely expands your options.

Um, the other problem is that a lot of people confuse dharma with should, and a lot of people will be like, I should do this.

This is my dharma.

I should do it.

It's psychologically a different thing.

Dharma comes from a deeper part of you.

Shoulds come from mental conditionings of society.

So when I, when my parents were like, you should become a doctor, there was no passion to become a doctor.

I ended up becoming a doctor for completely different reasons.

But I did it out of dharma.

And then it became easy.

Like from failing out to being at the top of my class became really easy if you're doing it in service to something.

One last point about dharma is that we know from addiction, psychiatry, and plenty of like neuroscience and stuff that in order to give up something good, you have to replace it with something.

So like addiction is about, conquering addiction is about wanting something more than what the addiction gives you.

Right.

So the addiction gives me like avoidance and all this kind of stuff.