Dr. K

And so there's a fundamental polarization, right?

The moment I create a positron, I create an electron.

So there's your dharma.

And then when you get lost of that, you fill it up with shoulds.

And then you have these compensatory wants.

And then you have a struggle, which is the core struggle that most people have.

I should do this.

I want to do this.

Once you get rid of the shoulds and you also get rid of the wants.

So once you get rid of the shoulds, then the wants will go away too because they're created by the shoulds.

They're created as an alternative or an avoidance of a should, right?

So the reason I love playing video games is because I don't want to work.

So there's a certain amount of quietness and involution that is necessary for that.

So to get away from your shoulds,

And so the first thing that I would tell people is like, you know, if there's something in your mind that you should do, you'll notice that there's always a want.

So just step away from all that and just sit.

Dharma will come from within.

So when we get rid of your societal conditioning, you will discover that there are natural driving impulses.

And the more that you give into those natural driving impulses, it's not a want and it's not a should.

I would say the best language to use is feel like.