Dr. K

No one wants to be disappointed.

So the mind teaches us this really interesting thing, which is it stops wanting, it gives up, it resigns itself, right?

There's no point.

And if I don't try, I can never fail, right?

So I used to do this all the time where I would self-sabotage because if I gave it my all and I was number two or number 10, anything less than number one is not good enough, right?

So number two, number 10, or heaven forbid I got a B and I tried my hardest, then I'm stupid.

But as long as I don't give it my best shot, then, oh, I'm lazy, but I'm brilliant.

I'm one of these brilliant people.

I'm cursed with laziness.

But I get some preservation of my ego there, right?

So like as long as I self-sabotage myself, there's always the possibility of being the best.

I just need to figure out how to do motivation and build the right habits and eat the right things.

And if I can figure everything out, then I'm going to be number one.

But I don't ever really want to test myself.

Does that kind of make sense?

Yeah, it does.

So a couple of things to understand.

One is that negative emotions are very powerful motivators.

Then we – people like you get into this trap where your negative motivation – like I asked you, is sad bad?

And then – so everyone was like, oh, yeah, I've been invisible too.