Dr. K

So I want you to literally think about this precisely, okay?

When you're taking a dump, are you a wise, passionate man?

I still am.

I still am, but I'm in that moment taking a dump.

are how would i know that you were a wise passionate man if i were to just it would be more of a self-reflection of a knowing but someone else wouldn't know so in that moment you're not a wife you're just a dude taking a dump yeah right so this is what i mean so so your identity literally activates and deactivates that's what people need to understand it is it is a it is an energetic pattern

So we know this because like we have this thing in psychiatry, we talk about the narcissistic defense.

What is that?

That is when we pump ourselves up when we feel threatened.

So if I say you're stupid, you say, no, I'm not.

Here are all the reasons how I can prove to you that I'm not stupid.

So that's narcissism.

If you criticize a narcissist, they will put you down.

They'll attack you back.

They'll pump themselves up.

So identity, literally, if you look at like, as you go through the day, right?

And maybe I'll use another example.

So, you know, I don't know if this is public or not, but I think you've just had a couple of kids.

Yeah, yeah, it's public.

Right.

So, you know, when you're holding one or both of your daughters, right?