Dr. K

You're going to show them, right?

But some people are unlucky because when they're invisible, they accept it.

They're more spiritually developed than you are and they learn acceptance.

Okay, now I'm going to be – they become resigned, right?

So maybe the influence of your father is important here because they didn't have the modeling.

So I've been working with someone recently who –

It's really hard because they have taught themselves, and this is happening really a lot, they've taught themselves how to stop wanting.

Because when they want, they get disappointed.

So there is an adaptation that protects them from disappointment.

You don't wanna be disappointed, right, Raj?

No one wants to be disappointed.

So the mind teaches us this really interesting thing, which is it stops wanting, it gives up, it resigns itself, right?

There's no point.

And if I don't try, I can never fail, right?

So I used to do this all the time where I would self-sabotage because if I gave it my all and I was number two or number 10, anything less than number one is not good enough, right?

So number two, number 10, or heaven forbid I got a B and I tried my hardest, then I'm stupid.

But as long as I don't give it my best shot, then, oh, I'm lazy, but I'm brilliant.

I'm one of these brilliant people.

I'm cursed with laziness.

But I get some preservation of my ego there, right?