Dr. K
👤 SpeakerAppearances Over Time
Podcast Appearances
Not what happens, right?
Too many people are held back by their ambitions.
They're held back by the target because we think to ourselves, okay, like if I don't have a goal, how am I going to motivate myself?
But you have to be really careful about a goal as a source of motivation.
Should we have goals?
Sure.
Why do you hesitate?
So let's think about how a goal affects the motivational system.
So I think we should have goals with care.
Yes.
So we should have goals, but we should be detached from our goals.
From the results.
Yeah.
So a way to put it, like I'll kind of give a simple analogy to start because then we're going to get technical.
See, it's okay to...
to want, let's say I want a fried chicken sandwich.
It's okay to want a fried chicken sandwich, but are you unhappy if you don't get it?
Let's say you go to a restaurant, you're like, hey, can I get a fried chicken sandwich?
They're like, oh, we're out.
How do you respond to that?