Dr. K
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Here's why.
If you have a stumble,
towards your goal and you are attached to it, you are more likely to give up.
So your brain says, okay, why are we doing this?
We're doing this in order to get this.
And now we get a bit of information that that becomes less likely.
So then our brain says, okay, we're not going to achieve the goal.
So I see this all the time in the patients that I work with who have early stage sobriety.
And so it's really interesting because when they start to relapse,
I've been sober for 160 days.
I had one bad night of alcohol and now it's ruined.
I lost all of my sobriety.
What do you think they do the next day?
Go drink more.
Absolutely.
Now that it's busted, might as well.
Yeah.
Right?
So the self-loathing, like all this kind of stuff.
So if you want an outcome and something gets in the way, if you have a setback, your attachment to the outcome is going to cause you to give up.