Dr. Kate Truitt

I know it's weird, and it's real.

The problem is hindsight's 20-20. And so we can look back and see every flag that was missed And hold ourselves accountable for it. And when I say hold ourselves accountable for it, of course, it's not us. It's our little friend, Amy, the amygdala spinning up a narrative of saying, see, you missed that. That's your fault. That's your fault. That's your fault. That's your fault.

The problem is hindsight's 20-20. And so we can look back and see every flag that was missed And hold ourselves accountable for it. And when I say hold ourselves accountable for it, of course, it's not us. It's our little friend, Amy, the amygdala spinning up a narrative of saying, see, you missed that. That's your fault. That's your fault. That's your fault. That's your fault.

The problem is hindsight's 20-20. And so we can look back and see every flag that was missed And hold ourselves accountable for it. And when I say hold ourselves accountable for it, of course, it's not us. It's our little friend, Amy, the amygdala spinning up a narrative of saying, see, you missed that. That's your fault. That's your fault. That's your fault. That's your fault.

You missed that, too. Aren't you so bad? How did you fail on that account? What's wrong with you? So on and so forth. Again, all as a way to create internally a sense of safety. Because when we're so flagellating, when we're beating ourselves up and holding ourselves responsible for things that we could not control, did not know about, did not see, our amygdala is saying, remember it.

You missed that, too. Aren't you so bad? How did you fail on that account? What's wrong with you? So on and so forth. Again, all as a way to create internally a sense of safety. Because when we're so flagellating, when we're beating ourselves up and holding ourselves responsible for things that we could not control, did not know about, did not see, our amygdala is saying, remember it.

You missed that, too. Aren't you so bad? How did you fail on that account? What's wrong with you? So on and so forth. Again, all as a way to create internally a sense of safety. Because when we're so flagellating, when we're beating ourselves up and holding ourselves responsible for things that we could not control, did not know about, did not see, our amygdala is saying, remember it.

Remember it because you don't want this to happen again. And so this is her way of being a looky-loo when there's a car accident on the freeway. People slow down, yes, perhaps for the safety of the passengers in the car accident, but also people look because the brain's going, I need to learn something over there.

Remember it because you don't want this to happen again. And so this is her way of being a looky-loo when there's a car accident on the freeway. People slow down, yes, perhaps for the safety of the passengers in the car accident, but also people look because the brain's going, I need to learn something over there.

Remember it because you don't want this to happen again. And so this is her way of being a looky-loo when there's a car accident on the freeway. People slow down, yes, perhaps for the safety of the passengers in the car accident, but also people look because the brain's going, I need to learn something over there.

Our amygdala's version of doing that with shame and trauma is to do a hindsight review and have 20-20 vision about every single thing we missed and hold us accountable for it so we don't get into danger in the future.

Our amygdala's version of doing that with shame and trauma is to do a hindsight review and have 20-20 vision about every single thing we missed and hold us accountable for it so we don't get into danger in the future.

Our amygdala's version of doing that with shame and trauma is to do a hindsight review and have 20-20 vision about every single thing we missed and hold us accountable for it so we don't get into danger in the future.

One of the interesting things that happens with my clients when we, not everybody, but a lot of them when we begin the work is ask them, what is their goal? And they say, I just want to be happy. The problem is, is our brain is not designed to be happy all the time. In fact, our brain would burn out neurochemically if we were

One of the interesting things that happens with my clients when we, not everybody, but a lot of them when we begin the work is ask them, what is their goal? And they say, I just want to be happy. The problem is, is our brain is not designed to be happy all the time. In fact, our brain would burn out neurochemically if we were

One of the interesting things that happens with my clients when we, not everybody, but a lot of them when we begin the work is ask them, what is their goal? And they say, I just want to be happy. The problem is, is our brain is not designed to be happy all the time. In fact, our brain would burn out neurochemically if we were

Our brain and our body are designed to flow and ebb and navigate through all types of feelings and emotions on a daily basis. The good, the bad, the beautiful, the ugly, the calm and the neutral. And all of those feelings become flags for helping us better understand what's happening in the world around us.

Our brain and our body are designed to flow and ebb and navigate through all types of feelings and emotions on a daily basis. The good, the bad, the beautiful, the ugly, the calm and the neutral. And all of those feelings become flags for helping us better understand what's happening in the world around us.

Our brain and our body are designed to flow and ebb and navigate through all types of feelings and emotions on a daily basis. The good, the bad, the beautiful, the ugly, the calm and the neutral. And all of those feelings become flags for helping us better understand what's happening in the world around us.

The beautiful part of being in the work and doing the work is that those red flag moments no longer spiral us into shame. If shame comes up and go, oh, that's also an interesting data point. Why is a part of me now feeling bad again? What's happening? And we can get curious.