Dr. Kelly Brogan

Whether it's the resolution of a condition that has a name and a diagnostic code, or whether it's coming into a more expanded experience of your day-to-day or sexual pleasure, the imperative is the same. Your system has to slow down has to soften. And there is a kind of quieting that happens.

There's a relaxation that happens in the whole system before you are ready to hold more pleasure and to work with challenges as alchemical possibilities. And so when you're

There's a relaxation that happens in the whole system before you are ready to hold more pleasure and to work with challenges as alchemical possibilities. And so when you're

There's a relaxation that happens in the whole system before you are ready to hold more pleasure and to work with challenges as alchemical possibilities. And so when you're

pushing your system to experience peak erotic adventures or to have more pleasurable sex, before your system has the capacity for that, you're going to go into dissociation and freeze and a kind of shutdown that I actually think is in many ways more eerie than fight or flight. So that functional freeze that a lot of us live in is, I call it living behind a glass wall. It's...

pushing your system to experience peak erotic adventures or to have more pleasurable sex, before your system has the capacity for that, you're going to go into dissociation and freeze and a kind of shutdown that I actually think is in many ways more eerie than fight or flight. So that functional freeze that a lot of us live in is, I call it living behind a glass wall. It's...

pushing your system to experience peak erotic adventures or to have more pleasurable sex, before your system has the capacity for that, you're going to go into dissociation and freeze and a kind of shutdown that I actually think is in many ways more eerie than fight or flight. So that functional freeze that a lot of us live in is, I call it living behind a glass wall. It's...

It's this sense of what could be happening in a moment, and it's just totally unavailable to you. It's just completely inaccessible, and you don't really know what that is. It's like you become a ghost in your own lifescape. And so when you're insisting on a certain kind of erotic access before your system is ready for it, it's pretty rapey energy, right?

It's this sense of what could be happening in a moment, and it's just totally unavailable to you. It's just completely inaccessible, and you don't really know what that is. It's like you become a ghost in your own lifescape. And so when you're insisting on a certain kind of erotic access before your system is ready for it, it's pretty rapey energy, right?

It's this sense of what could be happening in a moment, and it's just totally unavailable to you. It's just completely inaccessible, and you don't really know what that is. It's like you become a ghost in your own lifescape. And so when you're insisting on a certain kind of erotic access before your system is ready for it, it's pretty rapey energy, right?

It's like putting pleasure on the body rather than allowing... pleasure to be an emergent phenomenon. You know, I'm a big fan and I've attempted to translate Betty Martin's work where she teaches about the wheel of consent and waking up your hands and your skin to the pleasure that's already there. And a lot of that work involves understanding

It's like putting pleasure on the body rather than allowing... pleasure to be an emergent phenomenon. You know, I'm a big fan and I've attempted to translate Betty Martin's work where she teaches about the wheel of consent and waking up your hands and your skin to the pleasure that's already there. And a lot of that work involves understanding

It's like putting pleasure on the body rather than allowing... pleasure to be an emergent phenomenon. You know, I'm a big fan and I've attempted to translate Betty Martin's work where she teaches about the wheel of consent and waking up your hands and your skin to the pleasure that's already there. And a lot of that work involves understanding

boundaries and consent, including even with your self, right? So it's like, it's like a simple thing, like, right? Like I can, I can touch my own wrist or my own hand and I can feel the touch of my hand. I can focus on the feeling, right? So I'm using my hand like a tool, right? Right. Or I can flip my attention and I can focus on the sensation of the hand that is doing the touching.

boundaries and consent, including even with your self, right? So it's like, it's like a simple thing, like, right? Like I can, I can touch my own wrist or my own hand and I can feel the touch of my hand. I can focus on the feeling, right? So I'm using my hand like a tool, right? Right. Or I can flip my attention and I can focus on the sensation of the hand that is doing the touching.

boundaries and consent, including even with your self, right? So it's like, it's like a simple thing, like, right? Like I can, I can touch my own wrist or my own hand and I can feel the touch of my hand. I can focus on the feeling, right? So I'm using my hand like a tool, right? Right. Or I can flip my attention and I can focus on the sensation of the hand that is doing the touching.

That is for most of us totally dead. Right. So that the taking for I'll speak for women, if I can, the taking of touch is something that has been registered in the realm of taboo. And so this alignment with our desires, this ownership over what it is that we want, this experience of self-mastery to the extent where we can translate our pathways for pleasure to another experience.

That is for most of us totally dead. Right. So that the taking for I'll speak for women, if I can, the taking of touch is something that has been registered in the realm of taboo. And so this alignment with our desires, this ownership over what it is that we want, this experience of self-mastery to the extent where we can translate our pathways for pleasure to another experience.

That is for most of us totally dead. Right. So that the taking for I'll speak for women, if I can, the taking of touch is something that has been registered in the realm of taboo. And so this alignment with our desires, this ownership over what it is that we want, this experience of self-mastery to the extent where we can translate our pathways for pleasure to another experience.

i mean it's like most of us are literally in our 40s maybe beyond just beginning to think about this for the first time in our lives you know i used to do this hand exercise with my daughters when they were like tweens because i was like you need to start to understand are you giving touch are you taking touch right like what's actually happening because otherwise there isn't um any responsibility taken