Dr. Kelly Brogan

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Healing + Human Potential · The Truth About Women's Health + Mind Body Healing | EP 69 · 31 Dec 2024 podcast

You absolutely have to have, you know, the digestive issues. You have to have the allergy.

You see it differently. And again, that's confronting for a lot of people who are interested in looking at it that way. And it's not a problem. It's more compelling.

And it just applies as equally, maybe even more so because there isn't really a collective awareness around this co-creative experience that we have with our own bodies. That is, you know, that... that mainstream, I guess. Yeah, it's the downside of vitality and wellness is very real for most of us.

There's just like that wide open space of I can do anything because I have a healthy body is paralyzing, you know, in most cases.

So when I think of hormonal health, and obviously this is like my training, I think of it on a spectrum from stress physiology to sexual physiology, if you want to call it that, reproductive physiology. And they're intimately related. So anybody who knows about, you know, cortisol and progesterone knows that there's, you know, a toggle between like...

This is a time of crisis and not a time of procreation. And this is a time of procreation and harmony, right? So that toggle, that biological system attunement and alignment is operative beneath our very complex patterns of relating to our lived experience. And that is also why I have come to appreciate this experience of safety in the system. as being the ultimate goal, right?

Whether it's the resolution of a condition that has a name and a diagnostic code, or whether it's coming into a more expanded experience of your day-to-day or sexual pleasure, the imperative is the same. Your system has to slow down has to soften. And there is a kind of quieting that happens.

There's a relaxation that happens in the whole system before you are ready to hold more pleasure and to work with challenges as alchemical possibilities. And so when you're

pushing your system to experience peak erotic adventures or to have more pleasurable sex, before your system has the capacity for that, you're going to go into dissociation and freeze and a kind of shutdown that I actually think is in many ways more eerie than fight or flight. So that functional freeze that a lot of us live in is, I call it living behind a glass wall. It's...

It's this sense of what could be happening in a moment, and it's just totally unavailable to you. It's just completely inaccessible, and you don't really know what that is. It's like you become a ghost in your own lifescape. And so when you're insisting on a certain kind of erotic access before your system is ready for it, it's pretty rapey energy, right?

It's like putting pleasure on the body rather than allowing... pleasure to be an emergent phenomenon. You know, I'm a big fan and I've attempted to translate Betty Martin's work where she teaches about the wheel of consent and waking up your hands and your skin to the pleasure that's already there. And a lot of that work involves understanding

boundaries and consent, including even with your self, right? So it's like, it's like a simple thing, like, right? Like I can, I can touch my own wrist or my own hand and I can feel the touch of my hand. I can focus on the feeling, right? So I'm using my hand like a tool, right? Right. Or I can flip my attention and I can focus on the sensation of the hand that is doing the touching.

That is for most of us totally dead. Right. So that the taking for I'll speak for women, if I can, the taking of touch is something that has been registered in the realm of taboo. And so this alignment with our desires, this ownership over what it is that we want, this experience of self-mastery to the extent where we can translate our pathways for pleasure to another experience.

i mean it's like most of us are literally in our 40s maybe beyond just beginning to think about this for the first time in our lives you know i used to do this hand exercise with my daughters when they were like tweens because i was like you need to start to understand are you giving touch are you taking touch right like what's actually happening because otherwise there isn't um any responsibility taken

for what it is that you want and where it is that your pleasure derives from. And you take that into the bedroom where you start to have a kind of sex that is mostly performative and you're mostly externally focused as a woman on his pleasure and the evidence that you're doing a good job as a lover. And meanwhile, many would argue that your responsibility is to be inward.

Your responsibility is to attune so completely to your own felt experience that you can express that even more fully and more fully and more fully, right? So how the hell can... Nobody's even home, right? If you're so externally focused and you're watching yourself, like be the sexy woman, do the sexy things, you're in your trauma, right? Like you're in your...

I'm a little girl and I've learned how to do it the right way. Am I doing it the right way? And you're not actually home in your body to feel what's happening. So it can start with some very, very basic practices. I can pick up for a couple minutes a day an object and I can touch this object and I can focus on the sensation that the object gives my hand.

rather than what the object feels like, okay? So it's using what I would say is the masculine gift of your attention to access your feminine pleasure. And that kind of maturation, there's no way to shortcut the basics and to come back into this very rudimentary, almost like baby bird level of exploration.

And that is the kind of thing that grows your system's capacity so that when you are dedicated to bringing more pleasure into your life, more erotic energy, meaning more life force, you're not applying that same task and goal oriented kind of psychology to the experience of unlocking your body's like innate potential.

And when you start to titrate into it in this way, you'll eat a mango and it'll be like a quasi-orgasmic experience. And you'll decide to take a minute to actually focus on that, put your phone down and be with the inbuilt pleasure. The last thing I'll say is there's a really simple practice that I like to recommend that has to do with peeing. Right?

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