Dr. Kristin Carothers

So you over-correct. Okay. And then the person with ADHD becomes resentful because they think you're trying to control them. Huh. And really what you are trying to do is manage your anxiety about something being forgotten.

So you over-correct. Okay. And then the person with ADHD becomes resentful because they think you're trying to control them. Huh. And really what you are trying to do is manage your anxiety about something being forgotten.

Because they do forget everything. But they're not forgetting everything to get at you or to be annoying. It's just something that happens. But what then you may do is list out a schedule, make sure that everything is just so. And when that person doesn't comply, you lose it. When they do comply, you're happy, but what you're teaching them is not to engage in the behaviors on their own.

Because they do forget everything. But they're not forgetting everything to get at you or to be annoying. It's just something that happens. But what then you may do is list out a schedule, make sure that everything is just so. And when that person doesn't comply, you lose it. When they do comply, you're happy, but what you're teaching them is not to engage in the behaviors on their own.

So if I am scheduling all of your appointments, packing all of your bags, when do you have to think and when do you learn to do it yourself? Okay? So what you have to watch for if you're the partner of a person with ADHD and you don't have ADHD is that you could start to do too much. And then you start getting into this control dynamic.

So if I am scheduling all of your appointments, packing all of your bags, when do you have to think and when do you learn to do it yourself? Okay? So what you have to watch for if you're the partner of a person with ADHD and you don't have ADHD is that you could start to do too much. And then you start getting into this control dynamic.

And then the person starts to resent you because they think you're trying to control them.

And then the person starts to resent you because they think you're trying to control them.

Absolutely. You just need a system.

Absolutely. You just need a system.

You're capable, but it's that your system may not look like the person who's over control system. Your system may be, okay, when it comes to packing a bag for me, I'm going to set that bag out three days in advance. But guess what? An hour before it's time for me to go to the airport, I'm still rifling through that bag.

You're capable, but it's that your system may not look like the person who's over control system. Your system may be, okay, when it comes to packing a bag for me, I'm going to set that bag out three days in advance. But guess what? An hour before it's time for me to go to the airport, I'm still rifling through that bag.

Because there's something I've forgotten or I decided like I had two blazers and then I'm like, I don't like these blazers. Throw the blazers out. And then I'm like, well, maybe I'm going to need the blazers. Put the blazers back in. So I start to question myself. My brain is getting busy. I'm getting distracted. I'm overwhelmed.

Because there's something I've forgotten or I decided like I had two blazers and then I'm like, I don't like these blazers. Throw the blazers out. And then I'm like, well, maybe I'm going to need the blazers. Put the blazers back in. So I start to question myself. My brain is getting busy. I'm getting distracted. I'm overwhelmed.

So even though I had the goal of being prepared, I still find myself struggling an hour before I'm supposed to go. Because it's not now. It's not now. It's not now. But when it's now, I'm like, well, got to go with what's in this bag.

So even though I had the goal of being prepared, I still find myself struggling an hour before I'm supposed to go. Because it's not now. It's not now. It's not now. But when it's now, I'm like, well, got to go with what's in this bag.

So yesterday I had to go buy a blazer. So it requires something. I love how it was about you. It was about me. I'm going to be real with you all. I'm not going to point fingers. Yeah. You know?

So yesterday I had to go buy a blazer. So it requires something. I love how it was about you. It was about me. I'm going to be real with you all. I'm not going to point fingers. Yeah. You know?

But guess what? When you want to have fun.

But guess what? When you want to have fun.