Dr. Laurie Santos

But is every conversation with my husband more interesting than literally everything on the Internet? Right. You know, not necessarily. And what that means is we're so tempted by that stuff over in real life social connection, even though we know that the in real life stuff is going to make us so much happier.

Yeah, well, I think, again, you know, if we're really going for true happiness, my guess is that those cases are occurring probably less often than you think. And by that, I mean what, you know, the real happiness seems to come from doing acts of kindness for other people. Real happiness seems to come from focusing on kindness. the happiness of others, right?

Yeah, well, I think, again, you know, if we're really going for true happiness, my guess is that those cases are occurring probably less often than you think. And by that, I mean what, you know, the real happiness seems to come from doing acts of kindness for other people. Real happiness seems to come from focusing on kindness. the happiness of others, right?

Yeah, well, I think, again, you know, if we're really going for true happiness, my guess is that those cases are occurring probably less often than you think. And by that, I mean what, you know, the real happiness seems to come from doing acts of kindness for other people. Real happiness seems to come from focusing on kindness. the happiness of others, right?

You know, so already, you know, we're kind of in a bind of like, well, if other people aren't happy, then that's probably going to mean we're not happy, right? Because we've talked about happiness doesn't seem to come from our circumstances. So it's not like we're trying to beat other people or go after these accolades, right? Happiness comes from being grateful and present from what you have.

You know, so already, you know, we're kind of in a bind of like, well, if other people aren't happy, then that's probably going to mean we're not happy, right? Because we've talked about happiness doesn't seem to come from our circumstances. So it's not like we're trying to beat other people or go after these accolades, right? Happiness comes from being grateful and present from what you have.

You know, so already, you know, we're kind of in a bind of like, well, if other people aren't happy, then that's probably going to mean we're not happy, right? Because we've talked about happiness doesn't seem to come from our circumstances. So it's not like we're trying to beat other people or go after these accolades, right? Happiness comes from being grateful and present from what you have.

And so my guess is that more often than not, if you're pursuing happiness correctly, right, you know, based on what the science suggests, You're just not going to run into situations where you're sort of competing or hurting other people's happiness because other people's happiness is part and parcel of getting true happiness.

And so my guess is that more often than not, if you're pursuing happiness correctly, right, you know, based on what the science suggests, You're just not going to run into situations where you're sort of competing or hurting other people's happiness because other people's happiness is part and parcel of getting true happiness.

And so my guess is that more often than not, if you're pursuing happiness correctly, right, you know, based on what the science suggests, You're just not going to run into situations where you're sort of competing or hurting other people's happiness because other people's happiness is part and parcel of getting true happiness.

That's interesting. I don't know of any data that have looked specifically at IQ and happiness. My guess is there's probably not the relationship that you're looking at. But there is definitely a relationship between happiness and optimism, obviously. I think optimism is sort of part of our general happy life.

That's interesting. I don't know of any data that have looked specifically at IQ and happiness. My guess is there's probably not the relationship that you're looking at. But there is definitely a relationship between happiness and optimism, obviously. I think optimism is sort of part of our general happy life.

That's interesting. I don't know of any data that have looked specifically at IQ and happiness. My guess is there's probably not the relationship that you're looking at. But there is definitely a relationship between happiness and optimism, obviously. I think optimism is sort of part of our general happy life.

And the good news, based on this question, is like you can, in fact, learn these kinds of things. You know, the fastest thing to do is really try to just train your brain to pay attention to good things out there. Our minds are naturally tuned to negative things, you know, the yucky stuff out there, the griping. But we can tune our minds towards positive things.

And the good news, based on this question, is like you can, in fact, learn these kinds of things. You know, the fastest thing to do is really try to just train your brain to pay attention to good things out there. Our minds are naturally tuned to negative things, you know, the yucky stuff out there, the griping. But we can tune our minds towards positive things.

And the good news, based on this question, is like you can, in fact, learn these kinds of things. You know, the fastest thing to do is really try to just train your brain to pay attention to good things out there. Our minds are naturally tuned to negative things, you know, the yucky stuff out there, the griping. But we can tune our minds towards positive things.

You can focus on what you're grateful for. Another practice that I've been into lately, which I talk about on the podcast, is focusing on delights. Sometimes gratitude can feel sort of cheesy, but you can just focus on like things that are delightful out there, you know, like You know, the sunshine, like that's delightful. The fact that coffee exists, that's delightful.

You can focus on what you're grateful for. Another practice that I've been into lately, which I talk about on the podcast, is focusing on delights. Sometimes gratitude can feel sort of cheesy, but you can just focus on like things that are delightful out there, you know, like You know, the sunshine, like that's delightful. The fact that coffee exists, that's delightful.

You can focus on what you're grateful for. Another practice that I've been into lately, which I talk about on the podcast, is focusing on delights. Sometimes gratitude can feel sort of cheesy, but you can just focus on like things that are delightful out there, you know, like You know, the sunshine, like that's delightful. The fact that coffee exists, that's delightful.

You know, I don't know, some funny video on the Internet. That's delightful. Right. Like training your brain towards things that you really enjoy that kind of cause delight.