Dr. Laurie Santos

And then how do we find out what we actually need to make us happy?

And then how do we find out what we actually need to make us happy?

Well, I think that's where the science really comes in, right?

Well, I think that's where the science really comes in, right?

We can't rely on our minds.

We can't rely on our minds.

We're kind of in this position where we're like, all the things that we think we should go for, all the stuff that we crave might not be doing the work we think it's doing.

We're kind of in this position where we're like, all the things that we think we should go for, all the stuff that we crave might not be doing the work we think it's doing.

That's where I think the science and some of the stuff I teach on my podcast in my class come in because there are behaviors and mindset shifts that we can make to feel happier, but our mind doesn't necessarily lead us towards those naturally.

That's where I think the science and some of the stuff I teach on my podcast in my class come in because there are behaviors and mindset shifts that we can make to feel happier, but our mind doesn't necessarily lead us towards those naturally.

Boop, not true.

Boop, not true.

This is a fallacy known as the arrival fallacy.

This is a fallacy known as the arrival fallacy.

I like to call it the happily ever after fallacy, right?

I like to call it the happily ever after fallacy, right?

I get that thing and then I'll be happy if I get married, if I get the promotion and so on.

I get that thing and then I'll be happy if I get married, if I get the promotion and so on.

It's just another case of miswanting, but miswanting for a really specific thing.

It's just another case of miswanting, but miswanting for a really specific thing.