Dr. Laurie Santos

Boop, not true.

Boop, not true.

This is a fallacy known as the arrival fallacy.

This is a fallacy known as the arrival fallacy.

I like to call it the happily ever after fallacy, right?

I like to call it the happily ever after fallacy, right?

I get that thing and then I'll be happy if I get married, if I get the promotion and so on.

I get that thing and then I'll be happy if I get married, if I get the promotion and so on.

It's just another case of miswanting, but miswanting for a really specific thing.

It's just another case of miswanting, but miswanting for a really specific thing.

We often think that happiness is a destination, like get the promotion and then I'll be happily ever after.

We often think that happiness is a destination, like get the promotion and then I'll be happily ever after.

But of course, happiness is much more like a journey.

But of course, happiness is much more like a journey.

It's much more changing over time.

It's much more changing over time.

Soon as you get that good thing that you like, you might just get used to it.

Soon as you get that good thing that you like, you might just get used to it.

And so we got to watch out for these moments of arrival.

And so we got to watch out for these moments of arrival.