Dr. Laurie Santos

It sounds cheesy, but those things wind up changing our mindset so our brains can notice the stuff that's really good about our relationships.

It sounds cheesy, but those things wind up changing our mindset so our brains can notice the stuff that's really good about our relationships.

Well, I think there's some ways to break up the fact that we've gotten used to young health and so on, right?

Well, I think there's some ways to break up the fact that we've gotten used to young health and so on, right?

One is this strategy of what's called negative visualization, which is just you quickly imagine the opposite of the good thing that's happening in life.

One is this strategy of what's called negative visualization, which is just you quickly imagine the opposite of the good thing that's happening in life.

You visualize what would happen negatively, like maybe I have pancreatic cancer.

You visualize what would happen negatively, like maybe I have pancreatic cancer.

Eventually, I'm going to get old and gray.

Eventually, I'm going to get old and gray.

What would 90-year-old you tell you today to like do, right?

What would 90-year-old you tell you today to like do, right?

And I think just those quick moments of using your imagination to think about the bad thing

And I think just those quick moments of using your imagination to think about the bad thing

can actually make you realize, oh my gosh, I got to get to the gym today or I got to get a little bit more sleep.

can actually make you realize, oh my gosh, I got to get to the gym today or I got to get a little bit more sleep.

I have to take care of myself.

I have to take care of myself.

And so I think those momentary spots where you take time to like imagine the reverse, this isn't like being anxious about your health and being paranoid all the time.

And so I think those momentary spots where you take time to like imagine the reverse, this isn't like being anxious about your health and being paranoid all the time.