Dr. Laurie Santos

But because you set this expectation of only gold is going to matter, now you feel terrible.

But because you set this expectation of only gold is going to matter, now you feel terrible.

So maybe you didn't get the promotion, but you did really well.

So maybe you didn't get the promotion, but you did really well.

And your boss was like, you know, we couldn't pick everyone, but now we're going to get a salary raise even though you don't get their promotions.

And your boss was like, you know, we couldn't pick everyone, but now we're going to get a salary raise even though you don't get their promotions.

Like none of those things will feel good just because you were so focused on this one thing, right?

Like none of those things will feel good just because you were so focused on this one thing, right?

That's if you focus on the goal at the end.

That's if you focus on the goal at the end.

What if you focus on the journey?

What if you focus on the journey?

Well, now you're paying attention to what it feels like to learn things along the way, to push through the probably many tiny challenges you have to do to get there, right?

Well, now you're paying attention to what it feels like to learn things along the way, to push through the probably many tiny challenges you have to do to get there, right?

You have time to be present and notice what's happening.

You have time to be present and notice what's happening.

So many studies show the importance of presence and just noticing flow when you're going through things.

So many studies show the importance of presence and just noticing flow when you're going through things.

You get to kind of enjoy the parts of it that are most of what it is, as opposed to the one moment where you get the big email that something great came through.

You get to kind of enjoy the parts of it that are most of what it is, as opposed to the one moment where you get the big email that something great came through.