Dr. Laurie Santos

It's just that you stopped getting the same pleasure out of stuff that's good.

It's just that you stopped getting the same pleasure out of stuff that's good.

And this can be really problematic for relationships because it means you're not enjoying the stuff that really is objectively still good.

And this can be really problematic for relationships because it means you're not enjoying the stuff that really is objectively still good.

But there are ways we can do better with that.

But there are ways we can do better with that.

You know, you mentioned savoring and savoring is something that you really can do in a marriage, right?

You know, you mentioned savoring and savoring is something that you really can do in a marriage, right?

Just go back to your partner's looks of like, oh my gosh, I do love my husband's smile.

Just go back to your partner's looks of like, oh my gosh, I do love my husband's smile.

Or, you know, he just has a cute butt.

Or, you know, he just has a cute butt.

I love the way he looks in that shirt or just something silly.

I love the way he looks in that shirt or just something silly.

You just take time to some time to notice the good parts again.

You just take time to some time to notice the good parts again.

But there's also something we can do in terms of expressing gratitude to notice what we're thankful for about our sparses, the fact that they're blessings in our lives.

But there's also something we can do in terms of expressing gratitude to notice what we're thankful for about our sparses, the fact that they're blessings in our lives.

And I think this is something that the research has shown can be really powerful.

And I think this is something that the research has shown can be really powerful.