Dr. Laurie Santos

Because if you had a good friend that was really screwing up, that really wasn't putting their all in, I hope you wouldn't scream at them like a drill instructor, but I hope you'd get curious and like problem-solving about, okay, I think you can do better than this.

Because if you had a good friend that was really screwing up, that really wasn't putting their all in, I hope you wouldn't scream at them like a drill instructor, but I hope you'd get curious and like problem-solving about, okay, I think you can do better than this.

What can we do to fix this?

What can we do to fix this?

What can we do to figure this out?

What can we do to figure this out?

What can we figure out what's holding you back?

What can we figure out what's holding you back?

And that's really different than just being like, you suck.

And that's really different than just being like, you suck.

Why aren't you doing this?

Why aren't you doing this?

And so this is self-compassion.

And so this is self-compassion.

It's treating yourself like you're a coach, like you're a good friend who cares about the performance, but is going to care about performance in like a reasonable way.

It's treating yourself like you're a coach, like you're a good friend who cares about the performance, but is going to care about performance in like a reasonable way.

And all these studies show that that is the key to performing better.

And all these studies show that that is the key to performing better.

It's the key to actually succeeding at work, to not procrastinating over time.

It's the key to actually succeeding at work, to not procrastinating over time.