Dr. Laurie Santos

I think we assume it's winning the race, but really, obviously, don't you just objectively want to be doing better in terms of your time?

I think we assume it's winning the race, but really, obviously, don't you just objectively want to be doing better in terms of your time?

I think the other thing we forget is that our social comparison isn't exactly under our control.

I think the other thing we forget is that our social comparison isn't exactly under our control.

Lots of studies show that our reference points just go ballistic.

Lots of studies show that our reference points just go ballistic.

In other words, who we're comparing ourselves to just happens automatically.

In other words, who we're comparing ourselves to just happens automatically.

So as soon as you learn of somebody who's prettier than you or has a better salary than you or a better car than you, you just pay attention to that.

So as soon as you learn of somebody who's prettier than you or has a better salary than you or a better car than you, you just pay attention to that.

Our brains never find the person who's doing worse than us.

Our brains never find the person who's doing worse than us.

They're really on the lookout for people that are doing better than us.

They're really on the lookout for people that are doing better than us.

I saw this

I saw this

Back in the day, I was doing some consulting with a basketball team.

Back in the day, I was doing some consulting with a basketball team.

I won't say which one it is, but I was walking through, you know, what's your social comparison point for the best salary?

I won't say which one it is, but I was walking through, you know, what's your social comparison point for the best salary?