Dr. Laurie Santos

And that just shows how our brains work, right?

And that just shows how our brains work, right?

We find the one person who makes us feel crappy on whatever metric we happen to be thinking about at the time.

We find the one person who makes us feel crappy on whatever metric we happen to be thinking about at the time.

And so, yeah, this bias of as long as I do better than others, I'll feel good.

And so, yeah, this bias of as long as I do better than others, I'll feel good.

There's probably going to be somebody out there that's doing better than you.

There's probably going to be somebody out there that's doing better than you.

Unless you're, I don't even know who the richest person is right now, Elon Musk today, or whether it's Larry Ellison or whoever it is, unless you're him, you're not going to feel good.

Unless you're, I don't even know who the richest person is right now, Elon Musk today, or whether it's Larry Ellison or whoever it is, unless you're him, you're not going to feel good.

There's always going to be a second place in life.

There's always going to be a second place in life.

So finding ways to notice your objective changes, how you're doing better than you were doing before, that's a way to harness comparison to feel a little bit better about your happiness.

So finding ways to notice your objective changes, how you're doing better than you were doing before, that's a way to harness comparison to feel a little bit better about your happiness.

A big one is to try to get off social media if that's the kind of thing that makes you feel a little bit less than.

A big one is to try to get off social media if that's the kind of thing that makes you feel a little bit less than.

And for so many of my students it is, right?

And for so many of my students it is, right?

Who's getting the best internships, having the best vacations, or getting the best parties?

Who's getting the best internships, having the best vacations, or getting the best parties?